Wife & Loving Mother A Victim Of Domestic Abuse Dies
Organized by: Lara Blume McGee
Thank You For Supporting LC & Her Family
May 18, 2016
EVENT DATE May 19, 2016
The worst case scenario of domestic violence has taken place in White Hall, Arkansas. A loving wife and mother died at the hands of her husband. The details are gruesome and hard to read, however, they are real and they are raw. The family needs our support to help relieve the burden of funeral, memorial and related costs. Donations are greatly appreciated. Domestic abuse is NEVER okay or right. Now, we must pray for this family and support them through this grievous process.
Jane L. Hyde O'Quin was amazing in every aspect. She took care of a household raising 3 children and as care giver to her mother until 2011, her father until 2015 and her husband, a Parkinson's patient. She selflessly put everyone above herself. She loved music, singing, playing the piano, being outside, was partial to mountain views, waterfalls, creeks and streams. She loved vacations and trips with her family to their paradise in the Ozark Mountains where they dreamed of living one day. She loved being outside, was hard-working, always stayed busy with various projects and was never afraid to get her hands dirty. She was tenderhearted loving all animals, especially her hobby flock of chickens and had up to a hundred, at times.
After losing her father who was 94 a year ago last April, her husband's Parkinson's progressed. She then took loving care of him to the extent you would a young child, thankless as it was. The demands of his care made every day more difficult than the last wearing her down and finally demanding she lay aside their life plans in order to be able to best care for her husband. They were forced to put on the back burner plans of moving to their paradise in Mountain View, AR, where they had so many fond memories.
Her husband's care was exhausting with three or more doctor visits a week. Due to his daily ups and downs her energies were consumed with his care. She still remained strong for her children ages 24, 21 and 19, who are now suffering after losing both parents in this tragic way. Her attacker had a history of anger, abuse to his children, and to the animals their family loved so much. Even after finding out about her passing he has shown no remorse. This is the reality of domestic abuse.
Many women have been there or may be in a similar situation now. They are often belittled, feel powerless and unworthy. Many do not leave. It was too late for this mother. Did you just turn on your television and learn of a woman found unresponsive in her home? Did you hear the desperation in her plea recorded during the 911 call? Are you wondering if she was still alive when the police knocked on her door? Do you want the police to tell you why they didn’t break down the door? Are you angry that the 911 operator did not respond more quickly, more efficiently and note the urgency of the call? Are you angry she didn’t get up and leave? The reality is such women are made to feel trapped, controlled, and powerless to act on their own? Perhaps if you ever had to place such a call, as many have, you feely sadly outraged but not surprised at the outcome. Anyone could be in this woman's shoes given similar circumstances.
We have had guns pulled on us, been tied up by our abusers, beaten in front of neighbors, threatened with knives, and no one came to our aid or arrested our abusers. We know her terror. We can identify with her. There have been times we thought we, too, would be murdered without seeing anyone who could help us. We have been driven to such desperation that we admit to thoughts of killing our abusers longing to feel safe. It is no secret that a number of police interpret a domestic violence call as just another fight to deal with. They may think, “He’s slappin’ her around. We’ll check it out and then they’ll calm down.” “Abusers dare you to call the cops. They are confident that they wouldn’t do a thing to him.”
We think you should be outraged along with us. Everyone must learn something from these senseless tragedies. The 911 operator and those of us who may idly sit by must bear the burden of guilt. Our lack of support or inaction can cost a woman her life. We shudder at the thought of carrying this guilt for the rest of our lives as we know you do.
Jane O’Quin, 53, of White Hall, who was cut with a box cutter and struck repeatedly with a rake by her husband on May 6, died at a Little Rock hospital Saturday, according to a probable cause affidavit from Jefferson County Sheriff’s Office Investigator Terry Wingard. On Monday, Prosecuting Attorney S. Kyle Hunter upgraded the charges against the husband — Stephen Carrol O’Quin, 61 — from second-degree domestic battery to first-degree murder. Wingard said in the affidavit that he received word from Jefferson Regional Medical Center on May 8 that Jane O’Quin had been transferred to the University of Arkansas for Medical Sciences, where she was placed on life support having become comatose and unresponsive.
While at UAMS, she underwent brain surgery to relieve swelling of the brain.
Jane O’Quin was taken off life support Friday and Wingard said he was contacted Saturday by the Pulaski County Coroner’s Office, which reported that Jane O’Quin had died while in the UAMS intensive care unit.
If you can, please help this family with funeral and related expenses. Every dollar helps! Thank you in advance for your help.