Abandoned x-Army wife, destitute, ill~ Move for Life!
Organized by: Angela Scott-Cox
Angela Scott-Cox via Crowdrise
November 21, 2015
EVENT DATE Dec 31, 2018
DAYS TO GO: 222
On April 1, 2011 my Army husband abruptly abandoned me & my two feline furkids here in NC. I was left with no money, no transportation (he took off in our car), no help nor support (financial or otherwise), and as a homemaker with debilitating illnesses (I am Disabled, unable to retain employment, but I receive No benefits) I was instantly destitute and totally alone. While my credit was still good I took out a loan and several credit cards to sustain myself those first couple of months (& buying things in preparation for life as a vagrant), but I was soon evicted, homeless & living in car for that first year+. Despite repeated attempts I received no aid, let alone little attention or sympathy, from local, state sources or the Army (being an Army wife for over 15 yrs & the only reason I'm here is due to being moved by Army-our new station was Ft. Bragg). Even the lawyer I borrowed more money to retain had no empathy for my dire situation, dismissive of what “I” wanted / needed him to do & even got angry with me when I referred to NC laws pertaining to my case; he accomplished nothing except causing me more grief. Advancing my adversities & despair (only further proving how worthless my Self was/is) both NC statutes and Army regulations were not adhered to and eventually defeated, I gave up on both the Army and the lawyer. Living out of a car was very difficult to say the very least, so I resorted to posting a CL ad in which I explained my circumstances, my need of some kind of shelter in exchange for me performing housekeeping, yardwork, pet care, & finally I did receive a non-creepy, legitimate offer. Thus I found shelter (however precarious) and, as I've done from the very onset of this calamity, continue selling off everything I own & that I make to sell as this Is My ONLY source of any sporadic, inadequate "income", and at times some monetary help from others such as my few far-off kin & kith.
The only reason I have a car at all is because I discovered where my husband was staying after he took off & prior to his impending move or “PCS” to HI (military term for “Permanent Change of Station”-being moved to one's new station or base/post), which was to be our next move. So I towed the car, had a new key made and kept him from taking it back -as I knew I'd need it to live in beyond for transportation. And actually for a year the car was broken down, I could no longer afford insurance nor taxes on it, and it was about to be repossessed when a “guardian angel” lent me the money to pay it off, get it repaired, paid up, insured (& put a trailer hitch on it to enable me to haul trailer when finally able to move).
In June '14 my estranged husband left the military & returned to his home-state of NE, which I only learned of when I saw an unhidden online post/photo of his because since the day he took off he's refused to have any communication with me. And although I've had little interaction with the Army, since sadly they'd essentially deserted me as my husband had, I was completely dependent on the health care/insurance it provided so being without it I've been off my treatment plan of medications & therapy for my life-long mental illness & cannot go to any doctors for my ongoing, multiplying physical illnesses. Thus all my ailments have been further exasperated, intensifying my struggles & distress, and both my mental & physical health is poor, further deteriorating throughout this my unending crisis & being stuck here!
Moreover what little sustenance I have had is quickly running out -I'm down to what few things I've left (& make) to sale (or Try to sale), and I'm increasingly reliant on aid from others -mainly the person I stay with sharing groceries with me/us. With earnings from online sales, my freelance artistry & money gifted to me I usually barely can pay for car insurance, but with no actual income I can't really afford anything, even basic needs. But I require my car, not just for transportation, but to facilitate my cross-country move & potentially to live out of again, as my shelter/aid here could come to an end at any given time and also after I relocate. I truly have no means of sustaining myself or us here any longer AND after these very long years of being left stranded here in literal survival mode & perpetual tribulation while my circumstances become more grave and hopeless only brings a greater urgency to relocating.
My now 2 girls my feline furkids (RIP Cindle) who are my only companions & comfort and their need of me, love for me are the Only reason I'm still here breathing and do my best to keep suffering onward. Throughout these painful years I've had no life, I simply 'exist', I accomplish what I can with my limited health/functionability & do my best to get through it moment by moment...But it's never enough nor good enough & every day, month, year blurs into the next in such incessant hardship, sickness, uncertainty, anxiety, depression, etc., with no joy, fun, no holidays, no respite throughout it all. Only my furkids have provided any goodness and give me some strength, as I'm beyond exhausted, harmed, devastated, ruined (emotionally, financially, etc.!). Moreover still being stuck here in this state/this detrimental community where even prior to becoming impoverished and homeless I was abused, harassed, bullied, stalked, threatened (with bodily harm & even death), physically & sexually assaulted, & almost died here... Well, it's a very grievous environment that only compounds my extreme need to escape it-amidst the other contributing factors. Yet when I'm unable to provide for even my (our) basic needs I obviously have no $ to save up for a however desperately needed long overdue move and to reestablish myself!
*IN CONCLUSION only moving back to the West Coast empowers me to have a future and once again to have hope! I've friends & some family scattered about WA, OR, CA (all the states I grew up in) and being in a supportive, compassionate environment would be a huge improvement in itself. Although I've no actual home myself to return to I'll likely settle in Oregon or California, where I'll apply for local, state, government assistance, including critically needed heath care, -overall there's more opportunities and support I so truly need. Despite the unknowns relocating to familiar, positive, advantageous surroundings is vital, and I've faith that things will sort themselves out and improve, esp. being near or nearer to loved ones.
SO! after raising money to finally accomplish my biggest hurdle, my critical cross-country move itself, I then face the entire process of reestablishing myself. It will take much effort, driving around, talking to people, filling out paperwork, and much time awaiting processing of aid, etc. -there are many uncertainties and hardships still to come. Yes, further expenses will be incurred/more money is needed during this time of re-establishing my residency, transition, in order to once again Live, be able to get back on my feet (& paws)! for truly my very Life, health & well-being, future is dependent on this move/relocation! And although I may find someone to briefly stay with, I/we may once again live in car, thus relocation expenses may include some lodging, BUT the majority of funds will be needed for food/basic needs, gas, maintenance, and whatever else comes up.
Only with your generosity, support, caring will our return home succeed & return to Life be possible!!! Whatever you are able to afford will bring me closer to my estimated goal amount, and there are various ways to donate. Any/all help is Truly Needed & Immensely Appreciated! Please Share My Donation Page/Plea with others. Thank You so very much! ~ Angela K. Scott-Cox + Kira & Bonney.
[["Apologies to anyone who finds the way I write off-putting, but I do put much effort into my writings, I write this way, & while it may sound melodramatic it's all unfortunately true & completely heart-felt."]]