A Father and Daughter Apart
Organized by: B Cason
EVENT DATE Apr 25, 2014
It has been almost 3 years since my husband has seen his daughter, his mini twin! Help me get my husband to Dallas to surprise his daughter at one of her last volleyball tournaments for the year. It has been too, too long! She needs to see her father and he needs to see her!! A teenage girl needs her father and believe it or not, her father needs her even more!
In 2011, my husband and I married in Atlanta, GA, his home town. Shortly after marrying my husband lost his job and was unable to find new work. After very much deliberation, we decided it was best for us long term to move somewhere with a better job market at that time. So we moved to Phoenix, AZ where I had been living for several years before relocating to Atlanta. This move meant that my husband would have to leave his 12 year old daughter behind with the promise to visit and send for her often.
Since we moved, we have had one financial hardship after another. My husband has been laid off several times and I have been in and out of work due to medical issues. In this time I have had a miscarriage, invasive uterine surgery and we recently had a baby. It has taken everything we have had just to keep a roof over our heads. These hardships have been so bad and back to back, that it has made it so that my husband has not been able to go back to Georgia to see his little girl. The hardships have also made it so we have been able to bring her here to see us.
Over the last 2.5 years, my husband has tried to get out there to see her but every time he tells her he is coming, something happens and he is unable to make it. Then he has to disappoint her. For a little girl, constant disappointment from her dad can have long term effects. And at the end of the day, it is not her fault that we have had such financial turmoil.
As her stepmother, it is beyond important to me that she get as much time with her father as possible and that he not have to be the kind of father that can’t keep his promises. It breaks my heart to hear him have to tell her once again he cannot make it. I too had a father that did not live in my home and as much as my dad loved me, he consistently disappointed me and broke his promises. As a little girl I thought it was my fault he never kept his promises or come through when he said he would spend time with me. I know the long term pain this caused and how it affects my relationship with my father to this day.
My stepdaughter's mother just recently married and is now expecting a new baby. With all of these new changes, the most important thing at this time is that my stepdaughter knows she has not been forgotten or abandoned by her dad and that despite all the changes that have happened with both of her parents, she still has her very own, very special place in both sides of her family. My husband loves her more than she will ever know. She doesn’t know how he cries for her and wakes up in the middle of the night calling out for her. They have one of the best relationships I’ve ever seen between a father and daughter and it would be terrible, especially for her, if that changes. And now, at 14 her relationship with her father is more important than ever. She has never even met her new baby sister.
My step daughter is an amazing student and extremely talented volleyball player. She is on an all-star travel team that travels all over this time of year competing in regional and national volleyball tournaments. Her volleyball season is rapidly coming to an end and I want to send my husband to her tournament in Dallas later this month. I want to be able to surprise her and have her daddy walk into the venue with flowers and all the love she can carry. I know my daughter and I cannot go with him as that is quite expensive but if my husband can get there, my daughter and I can go see her at a later time. Besides, she needs some one-on-one time with her dad.
All donations will go to his plane ticket, hotel stay, and food for his trip. Even if we don’t hit our goal, every penny will go towards this trip. Please help my husband surprise his little girl! They both really need this.