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Autistic Mother and Son On Brink Of Homelessness

Organized by: Diane Forster-Dennis

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THE STORY:

My son (20, almost 21) has Autism as do I (I'm 51). He is a little lower on the spectrum and has to live with me because he does not have the living skills needed to live on his own.

Living skills consist of things such as being able to drive or manage the transit, being able to grocery shop, being able to plan a meal from recipe to shopping for ingredients to prep and cooking through to clean up, being able to manage limited living funds, being able to tell who would take advantage of you and not let it happen causing you to lose your home, your food, your clothes, your money, your life, etc., knowing how to do the wash, clean, etc.

My husband and I have known since our son was very young that he would probably have to live with us forever.

Our house is due for a foreclosure sale on Oct. 31 and we have 20 days after that to be completely moved out.

My husband (we have been married for 24 years now) decided he didn't want to have an autistic son or wife any longer and left us on Oct. 31 2010.

He has contributed nothing to us financially since he left and he has been very abusive of us both. The story is so, so much more than what is posted here.

He's even purchased a new truck and will be purchasing a home while his Autistic son is living in a house with mold and no prospects on the horizon for even having another place to live.

I held it together for as long as I could here without his help and then I went broke. As time went on my income became worse and worse.

Because I am self-employed from home (have been for 20 years due to my son's needs (and my own disabilities)) and I am my son's only caretaker I have to devote a lot of my time to him. The more time I spend with him the less time I have available to work.

The more often I am attacked by my husband via email the less time I have available to get work done due to the tremendous negative emotional impact he has on me.

I had to file bankruptcy and yet I am still struggling mightily to keep us fed and keep the utilities turned on. We haven't run the heater for more than a few minutes during the winter for the last 3 years due to the electric expense.

I was hoping to be able to have a motion put together for court for Oct. 27 to get partial support as a lump sum out of him (there is no spousal support award as of yet, he's managed to wriggle out of it - but he won't this time) to help our son and I move but I ran out of time.

I had to have it filed and mailed today but my ever-deteriorating emotional state (he is very abusive in his emails which is ridiculous when sending abusive emails to a self-confessed email packrat), and my constant taking care of my son, and my own disabilities, have kept me struggling with this court paperwork for 3 1/2 months or so) and I ran out of time.

I still plan on filing the motion, hopefully to be heard the next Monday (which would be 4 days into our 20 days to be out) but in the meantime I am desperate about what we're going to do in regard to moving.

I've always helped others when I could and now I'm in the position of having to ask for that help. I desperately need help putting together the money needed to move my son and I from our house that is foreclosing to another (rental) house.

There's the moving fee (my physical disabilities and his keep us from being able to lift much) as well as the move-in fee (1st, last, security), the fees for the utilities, the 2nd month's rent screaming up due right after paying the first month's rent along with all the other expenses, etc.

They ask us to set a dollar amount for what we'd like to request so I'm listing $6000 due to the heavy fees charged by the funding website but anything will help. :)

Thank you to everyone for taking the time to read this and to anyone who is able to help and/or share my request for help with their friends you have my undying gratitude. :)

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