Beth's back surgery so she can walk down the isle
Organized by: Beth Burke
I had 5 back surgeries many years and over the years my back has gotten worse. I walked bent over at the waist and can't walk standing straight up or for very far. I was alone for 15 years because I didn't want my disability to be a burden on any one. I figured that with my disability and the fact that I can no longer be very independent it would be almost impossible to find someone to spend my life with so I learned to do the best I can and take care of myself. See I have been on my own since I was 17 years old and supported myself mostly owning my own businesses. Every doctor I went to see said that my case was too difficult and they couldn't handle it. I also had doctors all over my state and including pain clinics tell me there was nothing that they could do for me that I needed to face the fact that I would be in cronic pain for the rest of my life but NOT EVEN 1 doctor will take me as a patient if they feel they can't do anything for me and wouldn't take me on just to write my medicine. So here I am with no one writing me any medicine everyone telling me how much pain I'm in and no one willing to help me. I was destined to stay in my bed for the rest of my life and I'm only 47 and be in extreme pain. That is not the life for me as I said I am a very independent and caring person so I searched farther and found out that I had to go to a big city with real specialists. Well I found some who were finally honest with me and told me that my back is fused with the vertaebrae fused facing forward and that is why I walk bent over. The also told me that because of the way I walked that my hips have fused crooked and my hip muscles are so tight that I can't sleep in a bed. Then they told me that I had no protection of my spinal cord for 3 stages and that eventually it would keep going forward and would break, they also told me that they could tell by my mri that I had had an extremely bad infection at one time that no doctor had ever told me and severe osteoperosis and arthritis in my spine. Needless to say I was shocked I couldn't even believe what I was hearing, but they then said that they could do an extremely complicated surgery and could make me at least 50% better meaning I could go for walks again and be independent. They informed me there was a good chance I could die or turn out paralized and the amount of scare tissue would make it difficult. They told me there would be complications like pnemonia, blood clots and many other things. Here is my problem is that since it is out of my state I am responsible for 20% of the surgery, plus I need to be down there for at least a month so my fiance would have to pay for a place to stay and the gas back and forth to appointments. I have always dreamed of meeting the perfect man and getting married but in my dream I want to walk down the isle straight up and not bent over at the waist. I cannot afford the wedding hardly let alone the surgery but I finally found someone that makes me feel whole and want this more than anything. I can't afford anything being on social security disability. I have been like this for 22 years and now have a chance at a happy semi normal life being more independent. That is why I am asking for donations so that I can help my back and repair the damage that the prior doctors have done. See I never sued anyone was cause I believed that the doctor didn't do it on purpose that it was my body so I have no big settlement to help me take care of my needs. I know that times are hard and that money is tight and to be honest I feel kind of selfish for asking for help, but I just want to have a good quality of life and I can't do that alone. Any amount that you are willing to donate to help me out is greatly appreciated even a penny it starts with the first penny. Please help me to get out of bed and live a little life and marry the man I love.