Bring Alex Home
Team Member: Eric Kirvan
Brian Meid wrote -
My 5 year old son Alex is the victim of International Kidnapping. He has been taken to China by his mother, and she refuses to return him to the United States. Any donations to this CrowdRise campaign will be used toward legal and travel fees to safely BRING ALEX HOME.
Alex's mother and I divorced last year. We have joint legal and physical custody. As part of our settlement I reluctantly agreed to allow her and Alex to travel to China for 45 days on vacation. She told me a few weeks after arriving in China that she had no intention to return him to the United States. He was due to return on June 20, 2014. He has been out of the United States since May 7, 2014 and has been living on an expired Chinese visa since the end of July.
Once I realized that Alex’s mother was not bringing my son home, I immediately began researching ways to bring him home myself. The more I researched, the more I realized I could not do this alone. China is not party to the Hague Convention which means that China has no obligation to recognize foreign custody orders or assist in international child abductions. I contacted the U.S. State Department - Office of Children's Issues, the Local Police, the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, and the FBI. However, there is nothing that these agencies have been able to really do.
I then contacted a mediation firm based out of the Netherlands that specializes in international child abductions. We have spent the last several months trying to get her to come back voluntarily so that Alex can have both of us in his life. I even traveled to China in October 2014 with several attorneys from the mediation firm to try and negotiate with his mother for them to return to the United States. Unfortunately, I was unsuccessful. That trip in October was the last time I was able to spend time with my son.
I will never stop working to get him back. However, timing is everything right now and money is a big part of getting the right people involved as quickly as possible. That is why I am asking for the support of others to help me in this difficult time. After a year long divorce, custody battle, and now a nearly year long struggle to bring my son home, I have been left in severe debt, wiped out all of my retirement savings, and I have nowhere else to turn. I love my son very much and cannot imagine not being a part of his life as he grows into a young man.
Our next steps involve the courts in China; which will be expensive and require a lot of traveling back and forth. I've tried reasoning with her to no avail. I have begged and pleaded with her to no avail. This is my last legal option. She has completely disregarded the custody documents that we signed together in good faith. She has selfishly told me that when we divorced, I divorced Alex too. I fully planned to honor the conditions of our custody agreement in spite of our differences. I feel so gullible for believing that she would actually return with him. I actually took them to the airport! I feel like such a fool. Please help if you can.
My girlfriend Tonya Kusitor is also running a campaign called "I Sing For Alex" which there is a link to below. She will post a different song every week in support of our efforts to aid in his return. Please check out her page as well.
Brian Meid (Alex's Father)