Connies' Health Conditions
Organized by: Connie Hensley
- Thank all of you who care and listen, and especially donate to people in need. Here is what I am struggling with for many years now. I already had autoimmune problems by age 39. I also was unable to have children and eventually needed a total hysterectomy by way of 2 different surgeries. I had large masses on my ovaries, about 4 yrs. apart. I was devastated that I couldn't have children, since I came from a rather large family. I got married at age 26, and had already been told that I had Endometriosis. I wouldn't give into the recommended total hysterectomy. I had 5 sisters, and one brother. All of them had children, and it actually grieved me to see how complete they seemed to be after having their children! I was hurt, but I am happy they have their children & grandchildren yet today. Still, I have a lot of sadness because I feel incomplete and alone. Even around my large family, I feel so set apart by the feelings of loneliness. Some of my family have kids who are very close to the other family members kids, and now even their grandchildren. These days I feel even more isolated, and here is where it all had become harder for me. My health got worse, at the worst time in my life. I always loved and respected my dad, from as young as I could remember. When he came home from work at night, I would literally talk his head off. I watched all the western and war movies that men liked with him. I would sit next to him and loved being by him. I even ate, drank, and tried some very interesting foods, and snacks that he did. Things like sardines in mustard sauce, oyster stew, frog legs, and once he bought chocolate- covered insects (when we took a trip out west to Arizona) ! My dad made life interesting. My mom was a good mother, but having 7 kids caused her a lot of anxiety and she suffered a few breakdowns while we were growing up. My dad wanted a son, in those days, to carry on his family name because he was an only child. He got us 6 girls before he finally got his son, my brother Billy, his namesake. Well, in 2012 the world literally stopped to me. My dad passed away in March. I was so devastated. My dad was always there for all his children & loved us all the same. If we needed help, he did the best he could. He worked 7 days a week, and some nights and never took any help from welfare, or even his parents who divorced & dropped him off to his uncle, after coming home from school, at age 6. He was pretty much alone. He started working at age 13. He was a 3rd generation window cleaner, and He worked on some really huge, high-rise buildings in Chicago, and elsewhere. He did residential work for some well-known TV personalities such as Ruth Lions, Bob Braun, and Johnny Bench, just to name a few. He was an honest, hardworking man. Everyone respected & liked him. He was also a 32nd Degree Shriner, in which he contributed to the Burns Institute in Cincinnati. He contributed to The March of Dimes, and others. My dad was my hero, and now he was gone for good. It's will be 4 yrs. since he passed this March. The only thing I am happy about with the timing of his passing, is he didn't have to see me develop double- breast cancer. You see, his mother died at the same age that I was diagnosed, at 52 yrs. old. He lost many of his family to cancer. Many died within about a two year time span. My mom said it nearly destroyed him. Anyway, this is where my toughest battle began. Just six months after losing my beloved dad, I found a lump, and learned that year, that I had Stage 2a & Stage 1a Invasive Ductal Carcinoma. I underwent 4 surgeries, and was on a chemotherapy drug at home. I was so sick that I couldnt eat, clean house, let alone take care of my hygiene. I had tried several of these medications with the same results. It may seem like a bad decision to others who haven't had cancer, but I stopped the medication & decided that I would try to do the healthy things, such as a proper eating & exercising plan. It was hard to do because I was still grieving over my father, and I had long-lasting side effects from my treatments. Things couldn't get any worse, at least that's what I thought. I was evicted from my home of 28 years, by my nephew who owned it through a change in my husband's mothers Will. He done the remodeling of her tiny home when he was younger. The rest of his family were financially set. After his mother died, his dad changed the Will, and went against his wife's wishes. That put the house in his brothers name, but the Will stated he could live there, even until his death, as long as he kept up the property taxes, insurance, and upkeep. We remodeled the single bathroom right after moving in, with what little inheritance his father left him. Years passed, and at age 42, four yrs. into our marriage, he suffered his first heart attack & had open- heart surgery. His brother also had heart related issues & eventually died, leaving everything, including the house we lived in, to his wife. She passed away in March of 2010. She, on unbeknownst to us, changed the Will to suit her children, and lied to her son, who inherited most of her properties, telling him we didn't pay anything all those years. We had all our checks, receipts for two more remodeling jobs in the kitchen & laundry room. I had to go outside & down cement steps for years to do laundry, as there was no other access from inside the home. It was a tiny 2 bedroom, and we even put a new roof on it. We planted several fruit & maple, Bradford pear trees, & a nice porch & picnic table area. My husband had been a carpenter for most his life. He made the beautiful picnic table & many beautiful birdhouses to hang in the yard. He kept up with the septic system, which was very costly over the years. Over 28 years, and through more heart- attacks, a coma, several strokes and my cancer, his greedy nephew put us out. His own children said, " he's a money monger!". I was baptized after my dad died, and don't wish ill-will on anyone, but, I do believe that God will serve him his judgement someday! Well, everyone, I know that this is a lot to take in, but still the end result of both of our health conditions are as follows: I have Stage 2 Kidney Failure, I had blood clots on both of my lungs. The left ventricle of my heart is malfunctioning, and I am on Coumadin for the rest of my life. My husband has recently suffered two more strokes in the past year. He needs speech, occupational, and physical therapy. He has had 2 falls & passed out, after being released from the hospital on Jan. 16, 2016. As everyone knows, one catastrophic incident can cause major debts, and ruin your credit. We were nearly homeless, had it not been for a friend who put us up in his place. We don't have much quality of life anymore. We cannot afford any vacations, let alone most of our medications, and household bills. Please can anyone help. No matter how big, or small a donation would be greatly needed and appreciated! I know that our situation seems unreal, but I am willing to post proof of all our problems listed above. I was on the gofundme site, with very little success. I now, know why. Just this past week, on the Dr. Phil Show, was an obese man, who posted his weight issues on the gofundme site. His name is Eric, weighed over 500 lbs. & asked people to help him go cross-country on his bicycle to lose weight & encourages other people. Well, his story caught the attention of the media, and thousands of dollars came pouring in. On the Dr. Phil Show, he was exposed as a fake. He was barely riding his bike & continued to eat junk food from local convenient stores. WOW! No wonder why it is that people are afraid to trust these sites. I felt fortunate, after 10 months to get $150.00. Only two donors, who were childhood friends contributed. I really thought that people from my church, that I had been attending for approximately, just a year and a half would help! No one did. They only offered to pray over me. I m not trying to belittle any church, but it's tough when you know that some of the members were involved in politics. I even voted for him & his family. I donated what money I could for offering, but I didn't have a car, and was struggling financially. Again, even in a house of God, it seems like they believe people only come to church for handouts. I am definitely not that person. I received my health diagnosis' after attending church for about 4-5 months, and going to multiple bible studies at the homes of some of the church members. I posted everything that I was going through, even to the political family on Facebook. I practically begged. I even asked them to just look at my site on gofundme, and I only had a response that they would look at it! What's wrong with this world today. Everything seems so wrong, and even our justice system is a mess! All I have to say is there isn't much justice in the world today, and I firmly believe that God will have his Judgement, Amen. P.S. To all, or any of you, who help my situation /cause, I will be truly grateful & blessed. I also will pray that God, our Father, will bless you a hundred-ful, and more, as the good word says! Thank You Sincerely With All My Heart & Soul !!!