Daughters caring for their mothers
Organized by: Ayanna Johnson
Well I was sitting here thinking about how I am going to be able to move my mother into an apartment by July 1st. Me and my mom have been fighting her cancer for almost 3 year's now. Cancer doesn't only hit you physically it also hits your finances. For the first 18 month's or so it was just me and my mom. Flying back and forth from Nevada to Arizona where she was receiving her treatment from. Why we traveled that far is because it was the closest Cancer Treatment of Center of America. That place was and is incredible. My mother had good insurance from working for 41 year's as a civilian with the government. However during her last assignment/post thing's started going really bad. First we lost her mother, my grandma and then after that she came darn close to loosing her husband of 22 plus years. He was very ill and was infact put on life support for like 2 month's. My mother refused to pull the plug and told the doctors that if God wanted to take him he would take him even while he was on life support. My mother loved this man back to life. It wasn't easy but she did it. He had to learn how to walk and talk all over again but she was there for him every step of the way. Not only that she also had the added stress of taking care of his autistic son. But she did it. On top of that at the time me and my sister lived in different states and my mom kept most of this from us. Well then in 2007 I got very ill and was forced to give up my life in that other state and go home to my mom. By the time I arrived I was ill indeed. My mother saw me through all that and once I was ok to help out I took away as much of her burden as I could. We ended up loosing my step dad in 2010... talk about hard, and through it all my mom continued to work, because without her job her husband would have been left to the mercy of Meri Care. So fast forward 3 year's and during those years the powers that be who worked at the base she was assigned to decided that they no longer wanted her there. Truth is they never did, because my mom is a very smart, spiritual leader. So that I don't make this too long, I'll wrap it up like this In the matter of 10 day's my mother was fired from her job of 41year's and found out she had lung cancer. We as a family tried our hardest to fight for her job, however they actually locked up her medical benefits, because they knew she didn't have the luxury of time to fight them properly. She was left with enough to pay off her legal fees and not much else. She was however allowed to"retire" in lieu of being fired. Around that same time my oldest sister just lost her grip on reality and started torturing me and my mom about our child hood, which I must say was pretty darn awesome. My mom was the pta parent for me and my sister, and when she remarried she did the same for his 2 children. Now here we are present day. After we finally got my mom stable, her brother decided to help out. He told my mom to come and live with him and his wife, with me as well since I am her care giver. That lasted 3 months tops. His wife is on a whole new kinda crazy and had him put us out. We have been living from pillow to post and that's a fact. I do have a job but I make next to nothing. I also injured myself and have been without a paycheck in about a month. I found us an apartment to move into, but because of the negative side of our credit, and it's all medical, it's extra expensive to move in. We have 6 day's to figure this out If we don't come up with the move in cost, we're screwed. Not to mention that our storage is in Nevada, we're in California and our car will stop working any minute. So I say to you this, anything would help, if 100 people give just a few dollars we could make it. Thanks in advance. Peace and Love to all.