Emotional Abuse is Real
Organized by: Rhiannon Darling
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July, 2014 my cousin Cameron (14) moved in with my mother, brother & I. At first she was just staying for the summer and then it turned into the entire school year. Her mother was agreeable to this. My mom asked for the food stamps my aunt was receiving for her and child support. Unfortunately, my aunt didn’t want to give that up. July 2014-June 2015 we saw about $500 in food stamps. During the time Cameron was living with us my mom paid for Cameron’s school tuition, clothes (she didn’t have many when she came), food, and whatever else was needed. We noticed quickly that Cameron had very low self-esteem and was depressed. My mom spoke with her and Cameron finally told us that she was suicidal. My mom has a background in psychology and helped Cameron as much as she could. She visited with Cameron every night before bed to make sure she was okay. My mom attempted to get health insurance for Cameron since her mother let it get cancelled when she moved to VA, and also because Cameron hadn’t been to the doctor in years. Her mother then told us that we couldn’t because she had lied on her taxes and we couldn’t put her tax information which is something you need for health insurance. During this time someone in my aunt’s county noticed that her son (14) was going to school and her daughter wasn’t. She was telling people her daughter still lived with her. Our entire family believed this. Someone called the school board on my aunt and she quickly proved that Cameron hasn’t lived with her since July 2014 and she was enrolled in school in MD. My mom is disabled with fibromyalgia and rheumatoid arthritis. She gets help from the state to pay our bills, which I’m sure you can imagine isn’t much, but my mom always seemed to make it work. While Cameron was living with us she told us how much she didn’t want to live with her mother and how awful her mother made her feel. She told us how when the school called her mother because Cameron was suicidal, Cameron got grounded because she made her come up to the school. The school required Cameron to go to therapy but she only went once. Cameron begged to go back but was never taken. My aunt had the family come to her house for Thanksgiving and Christmas. We were instructed to get there before everyone to make it look like Cameron still lived with her mother. My aunt announced she was pregnant on Christmas. Me, my mother, my brother, and Cameron moved to VA because my mom’s best friend of 20+ years was moving here when her husband retired from the Navy. Around May 2015 my aunt said she needed to go to the hospital because she was bleeding. My aunt asked if I could pick her son up from her house about an hour and a half away because she was in the hospital. When we picked him up he was confused about his mother but he came to our house so he wasn’t alone. We also found out that my aunt had taken Cameron’s brother out of school so he hasn’t even finished the 8th grade and will most-likely have to repeat it this coming up year. My aunt told us that she needed a blood transfusion because there was so much bleeding. She told us that she gave birth to a still born via c-section and that there were complications which made her unable to have children anymore. She posted pictures on Facebook and instagram of this still born baby saying that the baby was hers. None of this was true. The pictures she posted were other peoples children and photos off of the internet. During this time Cameron’s brother expressed to us that his mother was “crazy” and he didn’t want to live with her. He told us that his mother had taken his phone to call people when they blocked her number. He told us he didn’t understand why his mother moved them and why he was now attending a non-accredited school. My mom asked both Cameron and her brother would they want her to file for custody. They replied yes. My mom attempted to scare my aunt thinking she would just sign the papers. She went about it the completely wrong way, but she didn’t know how else to do it without getting the courts involved. My mom told my aunt she knew the pregnancy and all wasn’t true, that she was committing welfare fraud since she was getting food stamps from a state she hadn’t lived in in almost a year, that the kids feel safe with us. My aunt then threatened to kill herself and told the entire family. My aunt picked her kids up the next day even though they begged to stay. They finally left with her when their mother threatened to call the cops and they would make them leave with her. She took them to MD where my grandparents live and where they told the kids “if you don’t live with your mom you’re going to have to live with your father,” who they are terrified of and haven’t seen in years. Cameron had stated to her mother that she didn’t want to live with her and that she would rather live with us. Cameron’s brother is scared of his mother so he agreed to live with his mother. My mom asked the children if they still wanted her to file for custody and they both told her yes. When my mom filed we knew this would be difficult. My mom requested a guardian ad litem (a person the court appoints to represent the best interests of a child in a divorce or parental rights and responsibilities case) because the children said they didn’t want to testify against their mother because they were scared of her. The kids spoke with the guardian ad litem 4-5 times and spoke with my aunt and my mother. My mother had given phone numbers of their step father (since he knew first hand about them due to the fact that my aunt, Cameron, and her brother lived with him for almost 11 years), and the man my aunt had been stalking for the past few months. The guardian ad litem never called or looked into any of the things my mother told him. He seemed to have a bad attitude toward the situation after meeting with my aunt. Almost as if he was against us. Cameron said she felt that the guardian ad litem didn’t care what she had to say in regards to the situation. My aunt told the entire family that we had a lawyer so they would all feel bad and pay for one for her. We believe that she used the child support she had been collecting while her child wasn’t living with her to pay for the lawyer. So, my aunt had a lawyer and we did not. My aunt then told her lawyer that my mom had men sleeping in the house all of the time, that we made Cameron’s brother sleep on the floor and we didn’t feed him, that she was uses illegal drugs and using her prescription drugs illegally, also that she had to go to court for truancy. All of these things were easily proved not correct. My mother went to court pro-se meaning she was kind of her own lawyer. The judge was immediately annoyed at my mom for not having legal representation. He was nasty to her when she asked for him to repeat something because she could not hear him. The judge said that the kids would be better off in foster care. He then told us that the case was taking too long and to have us come back when the rest of his cases were done. When we came back it was time for my mom and my aunt’s lawyer to ask the witnesses questions. I was one of those witnesses and while I was in there they told me that I was lying and that I could go to jail for perjury. The guardian ad litem wasn’t looking for the best interest of the children and instead stated reasons why my mom was the bad guy. They said that my mother told me what to say. My mother’s next witness was brought to the stand and the judge then told her “of course your daughter and best friend are going to agree with you so these questions are pointless.” so he then told my mom’s friend to leave the court room. After they made my mom to look like a fool my aunt’s lawyer then stated that none of what just happened mattered and that my mom didn’t prove her unfit so we don’t need to go any further. My aunt never said a word during court and never went up on the stand. They told my mom that all of her evidence was to be thrown out because she obtained it illegally (which was untrue) My mom begged for the judge to speak to the children as he responded “that isn’t necessary.” They told my mother that they don’t know what would happen with a child in her custody and that she didn’t care about the children just about winning and about the money. On (8/18/2015) my aunt was awarded full custody of Cameron and her brother. Cameron wouldn’t speak to her mother leaving the court house. Cameron didn’t have any clothes at her mothers except for the clothes she wore to court that morning. Cameron before told my mom and I that she would kill herself or run away if she had to live with her mom. Cameron texted me that night saying that she was being told to “just get over it,” and that they don’t understand why she feels this way. She asked me to look up ways for her to be emancipated. When I did, I found out that it’s not impossible, but pretty close. My mom is planning to appeal the case which she needs to do in the next 10 days. We need a lawyer and we can’t afford one. We need your help. My mom wouldn’t be fighting this hard if the kids didn’t ask her to do this. We know this is very long and if you've read this the whole way through we appreciate it more than you know. If the money is there please donate so we can get Cameron and her brother back home where they belong. Thank you.