Fight to stay a little longer
Organized by: Jennifer MunningsMcDaniel
Recently my father was diagnosed with stage 4 emphysema. During this time we were told he had about 3 years ( so we figured we had time to get funds in order) on or around March 15th my mother took Ill and ended up in the hospital with an obstruction in her bowels which meant they were looking at surgery and at this time my dad was having a hard time finding his balance and would fall without warning my mother being in the hospital meant I had to travel from Ohio to North Carolina to assist in helping with him. while she was in the.hospital she was so worried about him she left and refused surgery. In this time I stayed here to assist because she was still sick and my dad was still falling. So about a week later I talked my father into going to see the dr not only was he falling but he had lost a lot of weight and became very pale. He had refused to go to hospital because she was ill.. But eventually the falls he had hurt his stomach and after a week of suffering with the pain not eating and still falling he decided he couldn't stand the pain any longer. We took him to the emergency room and after about 2 hrs they did tests,cat scans, X-rays, and lots of blood draws . We waited patiently as they kept him comfortable. Eventually the Dr came in and asked for the family to please gather in the room. We then found out my father had liver cancer and it had also traveled to his kidneys and a few spots on his lungs . The Dr said he had options but we're very limited and may only buy him, if he was lucky a week and we needed to decide if we wanted quantity or quality of life.. He then also advised us that we would be seeing an oncologist who would better describe what needed and what could be done. It literally took about a week for one to come see him and what we were about to hear was deafening to our ears we were told he had about 3weeks to live.. Now mind you my parents have been together for 49 years. I watched as both my parents looked completely shocked and my mother was in complete denial. In those three weeks my father was home with hospice care and what a battle, no time to eat no time to sleep and certainly no time to think about the end result which would be him loosing his battle to cancer on April 26th. I can't even begin to explain how devastated my mother was and still is not only has she lost her husband but she is now going to lose her home as well, that she and him have lived in for 11 years there was no monies for her no insurance nothing because neither of them could afford it. Very sad to say they both worked very hard all their lives but our government makes it impossible to survive in the world if you are and elderly person. Unfortunately I must return to work very soon I'm talking days and am trying everything I can do but I too have a mortgage and can't afford to pay rent on another house. I'm asking for help, help to buy her time to stay here and get her things in order so she may move. We have no money to move her or to do anything. We just need assistance in getting her in a smaller place which requires a truck,a security deposit and possible relocating in another state but for the time being we'd like her to stay here because my father is buried here. And he made her promise not to leave him. She has no idea what she is going to do at this time and she is so heart broken with the thought of breaking a promise.. Please anything would help.. God bless you all and we thank you for your help in advance.