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From the Ashes, Inc. - A #PreventSuicide Movement in Tony's Honor

Organized by: Yaitza Rivera Canterbury

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June 19, 2017

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THE STORY:

On August 12th, 2014, Anthony Christopher Canterbury attempted to end his life. As my husband and the father of our then two year old son, Kain, Tony was a simple, humble man known for his bright blue eyes, contagious smile, and a dry humor laced wit, and gentle sarcasm. Dedicated and loyal, he was a family man who sacrificed much to provide for others. He was loved by so many most of all for his kind heart. On August 31st, just 19 days later, our lives changed forever when he passed away -- leaving an unimaginable hole in our lives. Kain was left to deal with the loss of his beloved Dada, and I was left to pick up the pieces -- searching for a path forward. Tony experienced a difficult childhood that culminated in his mother being diagnosed with stage four lung cancer when he was just 16 years old. It was around this time that he made his first suicide attempt, but was thankfully interupted and prevented from completion. He carried the burdens of his childhood and mother's diagnosis on his shoulders into adulthood, developing and managing through suppression a severe case of chronic depression. It was only after his passing that I learned that he had been recommended to seek help for his symptoms; he hid it from me and everyone else he loved. He was much too proud to admit he was in trouble. It's unfortunate how many times I have heard that same story from others who have survived losing a loved one to suicide. The first year after Tony's death was tough; this second year has been even tougher yet. I've held many fundraisers toward suicide prevention in Tony's name, yet I've always felt I wasn't doing enough. My personal experience with suicide loss has pushed me to do more not just in his honor, but so that Kain always knows that his mother did everything she could to prevent another family -- another child -- from suffering the same pain. Those who knew Tony would say that Kain has been and always would be Tony's priority. To me, Kain is Tony's legacy. And my legacy for him is what led me to create this page. I've often read that suicide attempt survivors wish people knew that they do not wish to die but rather to end their pain. I myself as a suicide loss survivor cannot help but wonder what Tony was thinking, what despair he was feeling -- that led him to make such a permanent choice. What could lead one to get to such a dark hole and not be able to crawl out of it no matter how much love and light surrounds him/her. There are so many questions we can answer for each other if only the platform existed for us to work together. It is with this in mind that I work to create a movement in Tony's honor that will hopefully bring much needed resources to suicide attempt and suicide loss survivors. As a suicide bereaved widow, I have personally noticed a desperate lack of resources for younger widows and for those who have lost a loved one to suicide, above and beyond support groups. While I cannot speak for every suicide loss survivor, I have found that the programs and resources I was looking for (which went beyond just talk therapy) just weren't accessible to me in the area. I have also, in the course of my journey, been made aware of a dire need to address the rise in suicides among our youth -- especially when it comes to bullying. It's clear that the bullying programs in place today are not working and that school systems are overwhelmed when addressing the prevalence of bullying in our schools. There can be no doubt that bullying and suicides are correlated with the rise in terms such as bullycide and cyberbullycide. There is much work to be done in creating the programs and services to be available as resources for those in need. This is why I've created From the Ashes, Inc, a #PreventSuicide Movement focused on bringing together professionals in the fields of psychology and mental health with social workers and counselors, and all other like minded individuals and organizations with a vested interest in suicide prevention, to work toward finding solutions. As a free agent fundraiser, I intend to network and partner with other organizations that strive toward suicide awareness and prevention, and most importantly -- provide direct support to suicide attempt and suicide loss survivors. While I believe that all of us are vital to the mission, the truth remains that those who have actually LIVED and EXPERIENCED a suicide attempt and/or suicide loss are invaluable in he fight to prevent suicide and end the epidemic. Building bridges between professionals and survivors is a driving goal. Money raised from this funding will go directly to local nonprofit organizations to assist in sponsoring a launch event to bring in partners and raise further funding towards furthering their work here locally as well as toward the initial development of programs such as: *Mental health/suicide/bullying prevention “prep for high school” program for rising high school freshman (8th graders). *Expanding the already existing depression awareness program in VB high schools to other cities as well as adding a mental health/suicide/bullying prevention component within it. *Mental health and suicide prevention integration within the college campuses to target at-risk groups.Seek out Resident Life and/or Counseling Services at the schools to determine existing programs and ways to enhance them; areas where programs are lacking. Encourage working with partner organizations that can enhance resources available. Look into bringing awareness and prevention initiatives on campus through student-led organizations. I am thankful to have the support of my family and friends as I work toward expanding this movement locally and, perhaps most importantly, I feel in my heart that this is what I am meant to do for myself and Kain, and in honor of Tony. If even one life is touched by the work of this movement then I will have made an impact and Tony's loss can serve a greater purpose. Thank you, in advance, for supporting and sharing this campaign with others.

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58% Raised of $1,200 Goal

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  • Jennifer Martin

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  • Amanda Pike

    $500

  • Jeri Turner

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Yaitza Rivera Canterbury

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T. Green's Tree Care LLP

T. Green's Tree Care LLP

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SYPCOFFEE

SYPCOFFEE

DONATION: $50

9 months ago

Sarah Jones

Sarah Jones

In memory of my childhood friend, Alex Rodriguez. 11 months ago

Jeri Turner

Jeri Turner

DONATION: $10

11 months ago

Amanda Pike

Amanda Pike

DONATION: $500

11 months ago

Jennifer Martin

Jennifer Martin

DONATION: $35

In honor of Tony and Kameron 11 months ago

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DONATION: $10

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