Please help Jess be here for her children!
Organized by: Cindy Wadsworth
Did you ever meet someone who was so selfless, loving and giving that as soon as you met them you knew that this was someone so very special and they had horrible, horrible things happening to them that you knew you couldn't just sit back and not help. Well Jess is my person. I haven’t known Jess for very long, but in the short time I have been blessed to have her in my life I have come to know her as one of the sweetest, most compassionate, authentic people I have ever met and I very quickly learned and witnessed that Jessica’s children are her world, and mean absolutely everything to her. Which is why this story is so heartbreaking to me and why I have vowed to do something about it.
Jess and her family moved the end of last year and a day or two after the move I was having lunch with her and I noticed Jess was wincing. When I asked her about it she waived me off an said she thought she had just overdone it with the packing and moving of their home on her own, but in actuality she had been suffering from ever increasing back pain since mid-summer. When the pain became unbearable, making daily activities and sleep very difficult, she finally went to her doctor in early November and had her back X-rayed. She was relieved when she was told they did not to see any tumors and she was told to go to a pain specialist, because the doctor was sure it was a pinched nerve. Shortly after the new year I got a call from Jess with horrible news. I knew that Jess had suffered and beaten breast cancer back in 2011 and was doing great, so everyone thought. After her experience with medical care in 2011, Jess decided to wait for an appointment with the best place for back issues, so after calling for weeks didn’t get an appointment and then have an MRI of her back done until December 31st. So on New Year’s Eve, when most of us were out celebrating another year’s end and the possibilities of the year ahead, Jess was being told that she had Stage 4 cancer and that her body was riddled with tumors. The cause of her unbearable back pain was an inoperable tumor spanning 5 vertebrae and partially wrapping itself around her aorta (the main artery running from your heart down your back and by your spine.)
Jess has been undergoing painful and relentless treatment since January 4th and has been fighting new tumors and heart problems at every turn. Because of the extent of her metastasized tumors and the pain they cause, as well as her treatments, she is unable to work, so she has very little money coming in for all these very costly treatments. And just recently she shared with me that the chemo is not working and is actually doing more harm to her body then good and after much research and collaboration with her doctors they have decided to go with an alternative type of treatment that is very costly and unfortunately is not covered by insurance.
Jess received help from many when she first found out her cancer had returned, but with all of the medical bills, that money has quickly been depleted and there is very little left for her ongoing medical bills and for this new battle she is being forced to fight. I am going to let you read an excerpt from Jess’s carepages blog she uses to stay in communication with everyone in her life:
Some know about all of the additional battles I am fighting. None of those are any less or any better, but I will not stop fighting for what I know in my heart is right, fair, best, and will be the only way to keep my very precious and amazing kids and I healthy and happy in the present and the future. I must believe that at some point here, truth and love will prevail. I will never give up. The consequences of relenting to the pain, exhaustion and constant acts of thoughtless cruelty are too great.
Every day is very hard; I won’t lie. I fight every single day to keep my mind In the right place so I can be me, so I can be “happy”, hopeful, positive, “healthy”, grateful, curious, accepting, forgiving, open, vulnerable and keep my dreams for this life alive. I once again try to wake and put a smile on my face knowing that this day counts, and I alone have to make it count. I fight to believe I will have a future, that I will beat the odds and get my chance for the simple, full life that I crave, knowing it will bring so much more joy than struggle.
Please help me help Jess to be able to just focus on winning the battle for her life as well as keeping what is most precious to her, her kids, and not have the constant worry of how she is going to pay for everything. Please consider donating any amount you can to help this incredibly courageous and beautiful woman keep her will to fight to live for her and her children.