Husband's kidney transplant
Organized by: Susan Vanderburgh
Hello everyone. My husband is a stay-at-home dad to our five children. I married my husband knowing he had a kidney transplant, but at the time, we were young and I did not know how much our life 14 years later would be affected. We have 5 young children, ages 4.5 years to 12 years old. Before we married, I told my husband that I am used to working and would prefer to continue working. My husband would then be the one to cook and clean and when we became parents, my husband changed diapers, took the children to medical appointments, take them to and from school and sports. My husband was the main caregiver to all the children while I covered the financial part for the family. In June 2016, after celebrating Father's Day, I had to rush my husband to the emergency room after he kept refusing to go the doctor for a couple weeks for a cough. On that Monday, June 20, 2016 , I rushed him to the Emergency Room at Stanford Hospital and he was later admitted for pneumonia and creatinine level 11. His kidney was only 6% functional and he needed treatment for the pneumonia. His blood pressure was in the 170s to 190s. I had to go back to work, but could not because he would have to drive the children back home from visiting our family in San Francisco. I had to take time off (unpaid) for one week to wait for my husband to get discharged from the hospital. I was glad I stayed to drive everyone back home to Southern California because he was in no condition to drive. Since returning home, I had to rush him to the Emergency Room a few days later because the cough was persisting and we had no appointment to see a nephrologist. I kept calling every nephrologist's office in town to get an appointment sooner than "a few weeks from now". Finally, one office said she could squeeze in an appointment for him the next day -- we were so glad. Since, then he has been meeting with the nephrologist every month. Before that appointment, I had to take him to urgent care because the primary care physician did nothing for my husband. In August, I had to call the paramedics to pick him up from home and take him to the Emergency Room and he was later transported by paramedics to the Intensive Care Unit at another hospital. I had to miss another day of work, also unpaid. We later received a bill from the Emergency Room visit in July which was more than $2800. I do not know what the bill for the August visit would be and we had to call an ambulance. In August, we found out he has hemorrhaging gastritis and his stomach lining was practically eaten away and they found a polyp formation inside his stomach. He had to get medical attention because his blood pressure remained high and at one point reach 232. I did not know what to expect. I know it is inevitable that my husband will need a kidney transplant. We are planning now by paying off all our bills and I am working everyday and additional hours whenever possible. There is likely to be a share of cost for the transplant in the range of $40000 to $50000. If he has to go on dialysis before the transplant happens, that will cost in the range of $80,000 per year. There is no ways we can pay for that on my salary. We have no savings and we are currently seeking approval from Medi-Cal and a supplemental insurance plan that might cover everything. Currently, such coverage seems unpredictable because we have already received that emergency room bill for more than $2800. Please help by contributing to this fund. This will help take care of medical expenses that the insurance policy will not cover. If each person in the world reads this can contribute one dollar, that would help tremendously. Thank you very much for helping my husband get a chance to live for our five children who adore their dad.