BENEFITING: MID CENTRAL COMMUNITY ACTION
ORGANIZER: MID CENTRAL COMMUNITY ACTION
EVENT: Purple Purse Challenge
EVENT DATE: Sep 28, 2016
When you are on the outside looking in, it is easy to stand back and say, "why don't you just get out?” The only real way to understand is to be on the inside, as a victim of domestic abuse or as a sounding board to one. It becomes a very lonely world to live in.... How do I know this? Someone very close to me was a victim of domestic abuse.
It didn’t start out bad, but gradually she became isolated from friends and family members until she felt completely alone. It happened so slowly by the time she hit the bottom, she didn't know how she got there, who she was, or what happiness truly was anymore. She withdrew from people and life. She tried to put on a show so as to not let friends and family know the truth, because she didn’t feel she had the ability to fix it. At this point, leaving wasn't an option in her mind. She experienced verbal and mental abuse every day for about 11 years. She told her abuser she wished he would hit her because bruises go away, but the verbal cruelty lives within you forever. She was shoved and bruised and still didn't feel like that was enough to leave. Until one day someone finally said, "why do you let him treat you like that?" She didn't realize anyone had noticed.
She attended counseling sessions which helped to make her stronger and able to stand up to her abuser, but she was further abused and kicked as a result . She confided in a friend who gave her the phone number for the Neville House and asked her to just call and talk. That day was changing point in her life…that call made a huge difference in her world for the rest of her life. She realized that many of the things she had lived with on a daily basis weren't okay.
The Neville House offered she and her child a safe place to reside temporarily. Although she declined the place to stay, she remained in contact with the counselors. They gave her the tools and courage to change her life forever. She made her plan of action for escape and left with her child even though leaving was more frightening than staying because she didn't know what to expect. Because the Neville house was there to support, guide and love her and her child, they have been freed from domestic abuse. The scars from those 11 years, however, remain and can surface when least expected. But the strength she has built with the support of friends, family and organizations like the Neville House will sustain her through those scars.
Please help me in supporting such an amazing program that offers their services to women, children and men in abuse situations. These individuals need to learn how to find and love themselves again. You may think it easy to just walk away from an abusive relationship, but please understand that it's one of the hardest things in life to do and support can make a vital difference. Thank you for taking the time to help.