My husband wants to bring a 2nd wife to our home
Organized by: Nabiha Safriwe
I am a lady in my 40's living with my husband and two boys. Recently my husband wanted to marry a second wife (which is permissible in my religion, provided you can afford it and can treat both wives equally). However my husband cannot afford it because he does not make enough for two house holds. This is where the problem arises, now he wants to marry and bring the new wife to come love with us in our cramped two bedroom apartment. When I told him that I will not let that happen, now he threatens me with a divorce, knowing fully well that I cannot afford to it my own. I work part time mainly because he does not want me to work at all. Now he is giving me a trial period, where by I have to be extremely obedient to him, which includes not talking back to him even if he is wrong, he wants me to show him my paycheck every pay period and can demand money from me if he sees fit.I have to read books he wants me to. I have to limit the usage on phone internet I have to ask him for his permission for everytime I leave the house. I have to make him happy( because he said he is not happy with me) at the expense of my own happiness. I am in a panick attack mode knowing that one slip( mistake) from me can result in him wanting to divorce. He gave three months to straightened up or divorce. This has been the greatest ordeal I had to ever go through, I have constant panick attacks, my heart races constanly, I cannot concentrate, I have no appetite. I stress out. I know he will never find hapiness with me, no matter what I do, he is hell bent on marrying a second wife, he joins dating websites in the hope of finding a younger and more 'obedient' wife. I need financial help so that I can move out with my two children. In a burst of anger, he once told me that he will kick me out and take me to court to take my children from me. The only crime I have committed is getting older and less attractive. Please assist me to get out of this state of depression and insecurity with my kids. Thank you.