On January 20, 2012, I received a call from my 58-year-old brother; never knowing it would be our last conversation. It was the eve of my 60th birthday and we joked about it. As we hung up the phone, something in my heart urged me to say, “ I love you.” He muttered the same endearment and ended the conversation. 45 minutes later he was gone and he took a part of me with him.
My mother died four months prior, due to complications of dementia and, my only child left the state. I found myself isolating and deeply depressed. Initially many came to help but I wasn’t getting better and I became increasingly fearful I wouldn’t recover. It’s still not easy but I'm getting better.
I used my days of isolation to seek help. It was during an Internet search I found the Alliance of Hope for Suicide Survivors and it was the best thing that happened to me. AOH, and their volunteers, saved my life. There was no co-pay, they were available 24/7 and they had so many resources available. Under Ronnie's training and tuteldge, trained moderators carefully monitored and responded to every post and I felt I was in a safe environment.
At one point I became a steward with AOH, someone who responded, especially to new survivors or others who needed more attention. I gave the same love, kindness and understanding I received when I arrived. I found it powerful how one survivor’s encouragement could be so healing to another survivor. I believe this concept is a huge cornerstone of the Alliance of Hope's success.
I never saw my brother again. With that being said, I would like to take this opportunity to give back to the Alliance of Hope, on his behalf, and to keep this life-saving resource alive. We survivors are a forgotten and overlooked community. I will be forever grateful to Ronnie Walker who remembered us, built an online infrastructure to house us and, her relentless tenacity to keep this site up and running. She remains determined to "keep the light on" for everyone who knocks on AOH's doors, even after her work on earth is done. We are seeking funds to keep this site alive while adding resources as they become available.
ALLIANCE OF HOPE FOR SUICIDE SURVIVORS wrote -
In the United States, 4.7 million people are profoundly impacted by suicide loss. Those left behind are catapulted onto a challenging grief journey.
Many who have experienced suicide loss say they never knew such pain existed. In fact, adult survivors are nearly 10 times more likely to become suicidal themselves.
You can help them receive access to skilled support and life-saving resources by contributing to the Alliance of Hope (AOH). Through a combination of online support, community forums, and individualized consultations, AOH helps people survive the overwhelming despair and trauma of a loved ones’ suicide, heal, and resume productive lives.
Since 2008, thousands of survivors have benefited from the Alliance of Hope's free services. Many call our community "my lifeline."
Please give as generously as you can:
$30 ~ Funds 30-Minute Consultation for New Survivor
$60 ~ Funds 1 Survivor Counseling Session
$120 ~ Funds 2 Survivor Counseling Sessions
$365 ~ Sponsors AOH's Clinically Moderated Forum for 1 Day
$1000 ~ Sponsors AOH's Forum for 3 Days
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