My daughters story:
On Saturday October 28th we were on our way back from band competition, I was driving the bus that my daughter was on, Kelly Bray started having a panic attack and a asthma attack. I got the bus pulled over to a safe location went back to check on my baby girl and to give her her inhaler to try to get her to calm down. Once we got back to the school I found out what had triggered the attack, a girl that works with her that is suppose to be a manager threatened to beat the crap out of her if she come back to work again and that she needed to stay away from Kelly’s boyfriend because they were talking now. If you know my daughter she has always had problems with getting bullied at school since she was in 5th grade, she has been in canceling of and on for this. This that happen Saturday night was just tippy top of her not being able to take anymore of it, she wanted to Commit Suicide and she didn’t want to be here anymore. As a mother these are words that will scare the crap out of you, so early Sunday morning around 2:30am we took her to the ER to be seen by a doctor so we could get the right help we needed for her, because the school wasn’t helping with getting the bullying under control. They drew blood, urine test and she was now under Suicide Watch. At about 5am they come in and she was being admitted to Ridgeview for help. While we were waiting for the ambulance to arrive, which they ended up not getting there until 10:30am Sunday morning, we had 2 officers outside our door the whole time (they were really nice to us). They finally got there around 10:30am to pick her up, that was one of the hardest things I had to do is to let my baby girl go, she was so upset, crying and not wanting to go but I had to let her go I had to get her to a safe place where she could get the help she needed. Having to leave the hospital without your child knowing you won’t be able to see her or talk to her anytime when you want to is one thing I never wish on anyone or wish that anyone has to go through. I get home Sunday around noon and all I can think about is my baby girl and all I can do is cry. Sunday was the longest day of my life, just waiting to hear something and thinking what if I wasn’t there when this happened what would have happened, so much stuff going through my head. Finally about 3:30pm that day I get a call to let me know that Kelly had arrived and that she was doing ok, she had another panic attack when she got there and I needed to bring her inhaler. I wasn’t able to talk to her but they gave me a list of items I could bring and it was only a limited amount. I was also told that I would only be able to talk to her 2 times a day for only 5 mins each and visitation was only Tuesday 6-7 and Saturday 3:30-5. After I got off the phone I went ahead and got the things she needed and head out to make the trip to Ridgeview, along the way I stopped by her work let them know what was going on so she wouldn’t lose her job (not knowing at the time about this girl until Wednesday). Got to Ridgeview to drop her things off and I signed all the paperwork I needed to sign and I’m just in tears the whole time. Later on that night she was finally able to call me and just to hear her voice was amazing. I didn’t sleep any that night, my eyes were puffy and I couldn’t think straight. Monday morning I got up at 6am to get my day started with phones and getting busy in Kelly’s room to get it ready for her to come home hopefully soon. Kelly called me that morning and she sounded better then the day before but I knew we still had a long way to go before she was ready to come home. Later on that day her case manager called to give me an update on the progress and other stuff, at this time she said that the projected discharge date would be between November 8-15, my heart just sank not being able to have her back home anytime soon and that she’s having to go through all of this because kids don’t know how to stop bullying others and stop being so mean. That night my baby girl called me one last time to give all of us night nights, she sounded upset this night and was wanting to come home, after getting off the phone with her I think we all had a crying moment. Tuesday came and I didn’t get to talk to Kelly any that morning but 6pm come around and it was finally visitation day, she requested homemade spaghetti and garlic knots for dinner. It was the most happiest hour of my life being able to see her, hug her and hear her laugh, it was so hard to say goodbye to her but I knew I would see her again the next day because we were having a family meeting with her case manager about her progress. I had a meeting with the school today as well, I let them know what was going on and they are starting a big investigation on the situation, this doesn’t only include the students but a teacher as well. Wednesday morning got up there for our meeting, Kelly talked about what she was going through and what led her to Ridgeview. Things I never even knew was going on because Kelly is one of the ones that keeps stuff inside her and when she can’t handle anymore it just explodes. During our meeting I found out about this girl and what was said to her, she talked about how she was getting bullied at school because of her weight, her chipped tooth and others nasty things getting said to her. Our meeting went really well, Kelly was making really good progress and they changed her discharge date to Sunday November 5 but the earliest it could be was Friday November 3, you talking about one happy momma. So after I left I had to start making my phone calls to get the appointments set up for her to come home, she now has to go see a Psychology and has to see a Therapist for her depression and panic attacks. Thursday afternoon she called not feeling that great she said she had gotten sick in the middle of her class, they gave her medicine to help with the nausea and she was just ready to come home. Later on that night it was about the same still not feeling that great, they lost her blanket that she come home from the hospital in and she’s tired because she hasn’t slept any since she’s been in there (they come in every hour and shine a flashlight in their eyes to make sure they wake up), they only thing she was happy about this night is she got her discharge papers but it didn’t say the date. We are finally to Friday one of the happiest days of my life, only having maybe 3 hours of sleep the night before I wake up at 6:15am and start my day still doing laundry and trying to get everything ready for Kelly to come home. My first phone I get was her case manager letting me know she was going to be able to come home (jumping for joy and crying because I’m so happy). The next phone I get was the on that any parent doesn’t want to get and it’s from billing, having to go over how much it’s going to cost and how much I could pay to get my baby girl home that day, they are working with us on payments because I only get paid once a month and hubby only gets paid twice a month and usually we don’t have anything left after paying bills and trying to buy groceries which hasn’t been happening here lately (I’m thankful for my parents on helping us), so I’m planning on setting up a fund me to try to help with all the medical bills. Kelly calls to let me know she’s coming home and has one request for me to call her band director to see if she could walk down with her Marching Band family one last time since last night was their last night, he approved and kept it a secret from everyone. I finally got the last phone call to let me know that I could come pick my baby girl up at 4pm. She finally got discharged around 4:45pm and I got the biggest hug ever and my heart was complete again. She requested that she wanted Chick-fil-A, since she really hasn’t ate that good since she’s been gone. We got to the school about 6:15pm and all the hugs and crying to see her was amazing, what an amazing night last night was.
So this leaves me with this:
Parents please talk with your children about bullying and let them know that it’s not ok not one bit. Bullying can damage a child, it could push them over the edge to where the outcome could end up really bad. Pay attention to your child’s mood, behaviors and your child’s social media use. I seen the signs, I knew the hurt that she was going through but I didn’t think it was this bad. Talk with your children about Suicide and that there is help out there no matter what they will always have someone to talk to. I don’t wish this on any parent and I hope that none of you go through what we have been going through. I have taken off work so I can be with my daughter through this and take her to the appointments that she needs to go to starting this coming Monday. I am making my voice heard as of today and I will not stop until there is legal changes in the State of Georgia about punishment for kids that bully and for the parents to be punished as well. This needs to stop and I will be starting a petition to get this law into affect, if other states can do it the Georgia can. I will also be setting up a fund for Kelly to pay for her medical bills, to help with medication that our insurance doesn’t cover and also to help get her puppy certified to become an Emotional Service Dog for her. Please feel free to share my story and let’s put a stop to Bullying and Teen Suicide. I also want to thank each and everyone of y’all that have been worried and have been praying for us. We still need a lot of continuous prayers as we are just getting started with trying to get her back into a living environment and trying to get her back to being herself again.