Our primary focus is helping all victims of domestic violence, sexual assault, those fleeing violence, and suicide prevention. The stories, like the one in the video, is heartwrenching, but we care and so we continue to do this work.
Our secondary focus is community education, and collaborations with other human service organizations. This is one of the steps we believe is needed to bring about awareness and change, and eventually put a stop to victimization.
Precious Petals Foundation, Inc. is an effective force against the victimization of people due to domestic violence, sexual assault, and suicide ideation due to domestic violence. No matter what we deal with, we stay true to the work and to trying to help anyone who contact us. Dangerous as this work can be, we continue to do it.
Fundraising is of vital importance to the continued success of Precious Petals Foundation, Inc., and to the growth of its programs and services to victims. We are a 501(c)(3) that depends on the generosity of our donor friends, such as you. Your 100% tax deductible financial donation, and your support of our events through your attendance, participation in programs, or sponsorship, enables us to offer more assistance to victims, like providing hotel/motel emergency shelter for clients who can't locate a shelter in their surrounding area.
ANYONE CAN BE A VICTIM, BUT YOU CAN HELP SAVE A LIFE! Any age, sex, race, financial status, religion, education, employment or marital status. According to the CDC, 1 in 4 women, and 1 in 7 men will experience domestic violence in their lifetime. Victims should not be fleeing violence only to have to return to their violent situation because they have no place to stay, and no one to help. It is your donations that help ensure victims are given every hope and opportunity to be on their way to self sufficiency after being affected by violence.
To reiterate, with your donation, we can cover a bed for the weekend, while a victim fleeing violence get acclamated instead of returning back to the violent situation because they have no where to go. With your donation, we pay for motel rooms to ensure victims, especially victims fleeing with children, have somewhere to stay. Precious Petals offers other forms of support to victims as well. We have a clothing closet, a food pantry, library of donated books, and we offer several empowerment classes, resume assistance, back to school supplies, undergarment, socks, and diapers for children. Also, we are constantly looking for ways to meet the needs of victims and their families who contact us.
And, although sometimes those seeking shelter resides outside the area, no one is ever turned away. However, funding is a critical part of our programs. For example, our limited funding restricts the amount of motel rooms we can pay for to accommodate victims, and their children fleeing violence, and to help families get back on their feet or start over.
Additionally, it can be extremely difficult for a victim of domestic violence or sexual assault, or to acknowledge that abuse is taking place, especially when it’s not physical abuse but rather emotional or psychological.
Children in homes where there is domestic violence are more likely to be abused and/or neglected. Also, even if a child is not physically harmed, they may have emotional and behavior problems, some even become suicidal. Nobody deserves to suffer abuse in a relationship — nobody. Here is some victims whose lives were impacted by generous friends like you:
• Sylvia was stabbed in the stomach with an ice pick and went to the emergency room with the icepick hanging from her belly.
• Jan has been looking for a place for herself and her two small children ages 5 and 2. We recieved a horroing voicemail but did nto have the resources to put her up in an emergency shelter. Jan filed a restraining order against her girlfriend she was living with, and because she lives in her girlfriend's family home, she instantly became homeless. The stories are horroing and when we cannot help, it breaks our heart. This is why we are trying to raise the needed funds for our Hotel/Motel Emergency Shelter Program. We need the generosit of donors such as yourself. We still have the heartwrenching voicemail to serve as a reminder why we get up everyday with victims on our mind, and why we do this work. 100% of your donations goes to victims, we are all volunteers.
• Sue was held hostage by her husband, beaten and rape everyday for two weeks before getting a window of opportunity to flee. At that time, she made her escape to a Senior's building, where we picked her up from, paid for a hotel room, and she, and her 2 children, with only the clothes on their backs, no money, and no food was safe until they were able to find a shelter two days later. We also provided emergency cash (based on her situation) and food for three days.
• John called to talk about his controlling wife. She was slapping and beating on him, and he did not want to hit back. She get in jealous rages and would tell him who he can talk to, drive away all his friends with her out of control behavior, alienate him from socializing with even their church family. He was overwhelmed and wanted out but feared she would harm him or harm herself. Today, John has left the relationship and understand he can only take ownership for his own behavior.
• Angie called us from Florida on our 800 Line. She has an adult wheelchair dependent son. After fleeing domestic violence to a neigbor's house, she needed guidance and someone to listen so she can decide her next steps. Sometimes, that is alll victims need. We do not turn anyone away. We listened, gave her some resources in her area that can help with housing, and also where she could get help for her husband, who in this siutation, is a Military Veteran.
• Rachel was stabbed in the back while ironing, by a jealous lover.
• Angel was beaten over and over by her husband that she now suffers with mental illness, loss her job as a probation officer, and became homeless after fleeing violence. We provide a homeless program that provides "Homeless Blessing Bags" with the basics everyone that is homeless need. Soap, Toothpaste, Washcloth, Toothpaste, Cookies, Crackers, Tuna, Sanitary Pads, Condoms, and when funds are available we put in a couple dollars.
• Cindy, age 7, was molested for months by three young adults, 16, 19, 21 that her parents allowed to live in their home after their mother died. The violence only stopped after her adult brother caught them molesting her. Cindy is now an adult with trust issues, we provide group and individual sessions to help victims like Cindy. We also offer group and one on one suicide prevention classes which is conducted by Bev, a certified Gatekeeper QPR Suicide Prevention Instructor.
The names in the above stories were changed to protect our clients, however, the stories are true. These stories only reflect some of the realities victims of violence face daily. Together with your help, we can make a difference whether these people can be empowered to move on with their life instead of going back into the violence.
Bev Gilliard, our CEO says, "A person don’t grow up thinking “I’m going to marry an abuser; A person want to marry that one man or woman and live with them until death do them part.” Unfortunately many women and men don't have that choice. And, even if she or he grows up in a home where she or he witnesses violence, she or he is hoping to marry someone who will love him or her. So when this person, in whom she or he has placed her or his trust, to whom she or he has made a commitment, pledged his or her love, starts to hit, punch, she or he is confused, betrayed and many times, feel ashamed. She or he begins to blame herself or himself because she or he should have “known better”; She or he feels, "I could have made better decisions". She or he may even hide the abuse, stay silent in the hopes that she or he will change long before anyone finds out what she or he is going through.
Friends, abuse happen in many of the homes in America. According to the Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, Bureau of Justice Statistics, National Crime Victimization Survey, 2010-2014 (2015), every 98 seconds another American is sexually assaulted.
- 1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime (14.8% completed, 2.8% attempted).( National Institute of Justice & Centers for Disease Control & Prevention, Prevalence, Incidence and Consequences of Violence Against Women Survey (1998)).
- About 3% of American men—or 1 in 33—have experienced an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime. ( National Institute of Justice & Centers for Disease Control & Prevention, Prevalence, Incidence and Consequences of Violence Against Women Survey (1998)).
- From 2009-2013, Child Protective Services agencies substantiated, or found strong evidence to indicate that, 63,000 children a year were victims of sexual abuse. ( United States Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families, Administration on Children, Youth and Families, Children’s Bureau. Child Maltreatment Survey, 2012 (2013)).
- A majority of child victims are 12-17. Of victims under the age of 18: 34% of victims of sexual assault and rape are under age 12, and 66% of victims of sexual assault and rape are age 12-17.(Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, Bureau of Justice Statistics, Sex Offenses and Offenders (1997)).
The problem with Domestic Violence and Sexual assault, is that it spills over into our communities, our schools, houses of worship, in the lives of our families and friends. This is why we all have a responsibility to stop it. As we advocates say, “It is not personal, it is all of our problem”.
Precious Petals Foundation can provide opportunities, and the needed help to victims in crisis with your help. Compassionate friends like you help us impact lives and bring hope and help to victims in crisis, who are in need of many things like counseling, legal help, shelter, food, and staples like basic needs and healthcare. The desire for stability and safety is overwhelming and at times can seem like a huge dark cloud that is never going away; however, in order for things to change, we must be the change.
Your giving makes a lasting difference; This is why we need you to help us meet the ongoing needs victims of domestic violence, sexual assault, teen dating violence, death by suicide due to domestic violence, and their nonoffending family members! We can't do it without the generousity of friends.
Thank you for partnering with us; With your generous donation, and prayers for victims and our team, together we will make a difference. Please give something, big or small, we welcome and appreciate all donations.
Precious Petals Foundation, Inc. Team