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Please help a single dad struggling

Organized by: James McArdle

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March 19, 2016

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THE STORY:

So for those of you who don't know me my name is James. I'm a single father who over the past year has been struggling to adapt to my new life. Earlier this year I lost my mother to a battle with cancer. She was my rock the only person in my life who was always there for me. Shortly after she passed I got custody of my kids back 100%. As I struggled to adapt to my new life and new bills and responsibilities as a single sole provider for my kids I lost my job because the business was closing down. Suddenly I found myself unemployed with only a strict set of hours I could work because of my ex not being allowed to take the kids or share responsibility as stated by the courts. It took me a 4 months to find a job that would work with me on my schedule. During this time I received help from my ex's mom and other organizations in the area that could help if they had the funds available. Finally in late October, but by this time I was so far behind on my bills it was only a matter of time before I couldn't keep up. With no money for extra child care and no help at all from my other half I'm not able to get a second job, but at least I had the one and that was something. That's what I kept telling myself. Christmas was upon me and I was still struggling to keep my head above water and went into the new year negative in my bank account with rent and electric due in a matter of days I made a desperation move, I took a title loan out on my car. Thinking I would be able to claim taxes this year( and not have it taken from me because of the rehab program I've been in to take care of my defaulted student loans) I figured no problem when I file and get my refund I'll pay it back no problem. Bills covered rent paid electric paid. Now I have another bill that is around 300 a month... Can't afford it. Well come to find out after talking with the dept of edu my garnishment wasn't gonna stop till after I complete the rehab program not after bring in it for five months like the guy said when I signed up. So in Feb my rent electric and car loan were all due in the first week. That's over 1400 I don't have so I choose to pay my car loan and pay a late fee on my rent. Well in the same breathe the government takes away my food stamps and cash assistance cause I can't do their 30 hours of community service because of my work and schedule with kids. So there goes my help with that and now I have to add food into my budget and take away 250 a month I was getting from them to help with bills every month. Sliding further behind.... Now its February I'm behind on my rent because I had to pay car bill, phone ,electric and now provide food out of my already struggling budget. Since I could no longer afford the 400 a month in child care the amount of hours I could work a week went to 30 not knowing how to help my situation I reached out to my ex to see if shed claim the kids and if I gave her money out of the return would she give me the rest so I could get out of the hole I'm in. People that was in the second week of Feb. Since then she has given every excuse on why the money hasn't shown up yet. I put my faith in her that she would do this for the kids, not for me and she got one over on me. I am now at the point where my situation is as follows. Behind rent 1600 Total car loan monthly payment 329 Phone has been shut off and I must come up with at least 198 to have service restored My cable bill is two months behind a total of 300 dollars. I have been trying for a year and a half to get child support to go after my kids mother. She has a job and a stable home at her fathers why are they not going after her like they would me if the situation was reversed? That little help from them and her may have kept me from the situation I now find myself in. On the verge of eviction 2 months before the school year ends. I don't want to have to pull my kids out of school right before it ends. Move them to a new area just like that. Please somebody help me. I just don't know what do do anymore. I can't seem to find any help. This is not for me, it is for my kids. I just want to do right by them and be the strong father figure they need. With all the inconsistency in their lives in the past I don't want that for them anymore. Please I'm begging, help me help my children, thank you and God bless. Sincerely, James, Wolfgang, and Maddison

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Anonymous

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I'm sorry things have been difficult for you and hope you find a way to straighten things out. Look for My donation is given in memory of your Mom on her birthday. She believed in you; find the help you need to make things better for yourself and the children. Look for useful information about credit counseling and debt management on the Florida Attorney General's web site. http://myfloridalegal.com/pages.nsf/Main/8C5B6B26667BE41485256EC2004D3252!Open 2 years ago

Anonymous

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2 years ago

Kevin and Jacqlyn

Kevin and Jacqlyn

DONATION: $25

2 years ago

Anonymous

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DONATION: $25

Keep your head up and keep pushing forward. Kids are resilient and as long as you always do everything you can to take care of them, the universe will be there for you. Also, think about small ways to cut costs. Anything extracurricular that you do that isn't helping them like drinking or smoking or going to movies or eating out... It's difficult to do and to tell them no, but in the end every penny counts! Good luck! 2 years ago

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