Rebecca's Cost for Living
Organized by: Rebecca Frost
Hi, my name is Rebecca and I lived with controlling, manipulative, abusive parents. I hatched an elaborate plan to "run away from home" after a trip I took to Chicago to see my boyfriend's Naval Academy graduation. I put "run away" in quotes because at the time I was almost 20 years old, so really, I simply moved out. I chose to not tell my parents where I was moving to because instead of being seen as a daughter, I was their maid. I took care of my younger brother, did all of the house work, balanced my own job, 6 days straight of college courses because I couldn't be out past 8 even if it were for academic purposes... I was stretching myself thin. I tried confronting my mother, telling her how unhappy I was, but she simply told me " don't play the victim card", so I kept my mouth shut. One night, a friend saw how poorly my parents treated me and reached out. He said I can always come live with him, but I was so scared. What would my dad think? Who is going to take care of Garrett ( my brother ) if I were to leave? But I took a step back and started putting my happiness first. I realized I was losing weight from all the stress I was allowing in my life. The emotional and mental pain I was choosing to suffer through all for financial stability... when I finally got up the courage to leave, all I had was $200 and 6 cardboard boxes. The car I had purchased was not in my name, nor could I afford my cellphone. I knew if I were to take my car, my father would report it stolen. He used to go through that lecture with me if I went anywhere without his permission. Even if it were just a trip to get some feminine hygiene products ( a true example ). It's been almost 4 months since I left, and now my roommate wants to break the lease and move to Big Rapids to attend Ferris. He was originally planning on commuting to CMU, but Ferris was a better offer for him. He's been my best friend and emotional support through all of my tribulations. Who am I to stand in the way of his academic dreams? I'm not asking for a whole lot, but every cent counts in helping me pay for my cost of living. I'm still looking for a new place to live/ new roommate and I have about 2 months until I need to move out. I would really appreciate any kind of help you have to offer. More than I could possibly explain.