Showing a Mother The Appreciation She Deserves
Organized by: Stephanie Sappey
EVENT DATE Aug 29, 2015
My Mother is absolutely amazing! She is turning 50 in September, so I decided to plan a surprise birthday party for her (THIS SATURDAY) August 29th. I began planning about a month ago & couldn't imagine t he responses that I received to attend her party! I was so excited as they poured in but now panic is setting in that because of my medical expenses I am going to fall short in really showing her how much we all adore her.
My Mom has had a bit of a rocky life. Robin was born to an unwed 15 year old who didn't have a great upbringing herself. My Grandmother relied on my Great Aunt to care for her until she was capable of doing so. Obviously Aunt J did an amazing job raising her along with a foster/adopted child and 2 of her own children. She became pregnant with me at the young age of 16. She did whatever she could to squeeze out every second of every day to make sure she graduated High School, work and attend a school sponsored program to become licensed in cosmetology.
She married my Father in 1983 but wasn't "happy" but continued to keep home life for me and my sister a happy loving environment. She was diagnosed with ovarian and uterine cancer. After a few surgeries and forced menopause in her 30's she was cancer free. :) My parents divorced when I was 17. Later I found out about some controlling issues and adultery. Unfortunately her struggles weren't over.
Once she began dating... life began to plummet. We had our front door busted in several times by a psychotic rampaging (ex) boyfriend. Then he ran us off the road after a family trip to a restaurant to celebrate my sisters birthday. NOT to mention the 6 brand new tires that he either slashed or cut the the valve stem off of while the entire family (now including her 1 year old granddaughter) took trips to the carnival or out to get ice cream.
Once that disaster was finally over with she met a man that made me so envious of their love and compassion for each other. They purchased a new home together two counties away, I later moved closer to her because it was just too far to be away from her. It was wonderful while it lasted, but after a few years of the great brought on the bad. My Grandmother had been living with them and she took a lot of time from their relationship and he took it upon himself to find another woman to fill a void that Robin wasn't even aware of. So another UGLY divorce. In the midst of that marriage she was also focused on my sister who had been in a car accident. It began to seem as if every doctor was just throwing narcotic pain killer at her, it didn't take long for her to become addicted. Once the doctors stopped giving them to her she made the switch to heroine. After multiple attempts at rehab, mental institutions and suicide watch; she finally saw the error in her ways and was clean. My sister had some relapses and we all had property stolen by her at some point in all this. Once Robin knew that something of mine or her Granddaughter's was stolen she would spend her last dime to replace it.
She met and fell in love with another man years later but refused to jump into marriage yet. Thankfully she didn't. She fell and really injured her back while walking into work. She had several procedures to try to correct the discs in her back but nothing would take the pain completely away. With the fear of becoming addicted to the narcotics, she would rarely take them and just try to deal with the pain. She was on workers comp. for 2 years plus. During her time off her so-called-boyfriend expected her to clean the house, run his kids everywhere and wouldn't allow her to come see her kids or grand kids because her income was much lower now and she wasn't allowed to use the $5 in gas. They would argue and he would throw her stuff out on the lawn in the rain. On several occasions she slept in her car. I wasn't aware of this until she was moving. I told her to come stay with me but she didn't want to be an "inconvenience"....... typical Mom.
Just 2 weeks ago she left him and bought a house close to her kids. It's so refreshing to see the joy and excitement in her face again. She's stronger because of this, her words "... NO MAN WILL EVER TELL ME TO GET THE F**K OUT OF HIS HOUSE AGAIN I have my own"
Now that she has dealt with SO much crap in her life I was going to show her how much she is loved and appreciated by so many.
Her party is this Saturday and I did all I could to keep expenses down... I learned how to pinch a penny from Momma. Unfortunately as it always seems to happen when I try to do anything for her something pops up that I can not ignore with my medical problems. It's slowly coming down to the wire and I am short on funds to make this happen. I am not trying to put on anything extravagant, I just want her to know that we love her.... We were there yesterday and today, and we will always be there to support her in anyway we possibly can.
Thank You from the bottom of my heart for just reading this! I know that funds seem to be tight for everyone but if you can financially spare a few 'rectangles (dollars) I will greatly appreciate it! Every little bit helps!