Single Mother needs financial assistance on necessities
Organized by: Randi Tampa
I am a single mother, who is currently on workmans comp. I was in a car accident, and broke my knee cap, have a protruding disc at the base of my spine that is pushing into my nerve root and has caused sciatica down my tailbone/butt, vagina, and both legs. I also have a current level 3 ankle sprain in which I have a torn ligament and a sprained one, you only have 3, due to the sciatica. I have about half of what I would be making if I were working, coming in to live off of. I recieve f percent of what my last check was, the last week I worked. Btw, I had just changed to that job a month prior due to not having enough hrs/pay at the previous job I had the year prior. As if finances for us weren't hard enough prior to this financial hardship! I am desperate, and here goes an attempt at asking for help in an unusual way, for me! I have a cat that I adopted from a shelter at the age of 8 weeks, who is nearing the age of 16 this August. She is my child, baby, my companion, best friend, and has always been here for me, my teddy bear even when I am upset or sick. We have been through so much together, moving, illness, having a human child, really we have grown up together even as I was just 20 when I took her in. I can't imagine her not by my side. I love her and I know she loves me. I exhale or stretch, and she will too. She sleeps with me every night, loves on me constantly, talks to me, plays with me, and is something else. I will try to keep this somewhat short. She started having weight lose about 2 years ago. She was probably about 12lbs, and is now 6lbs, skin and bones. She has been crying out in pain, and grabbing at her mouth. I spent the last two years taking her to the vet, seeing different doctors there as I was passed around and was given no real reason for her symptoms, about $1300 later. I recently tried a vet a family member suggested, fearing that even though she has no aids, leukemia, cancer, thyroid condition, or anything else since she was tested for everything under the sun, I may have to put her to sleep to end her suffering. I questioned if I were being selfish. My dog, at just short of 13 years of age, who I had since she was 8 months old, had a heart attack just a year ago, and dropped to the floor suddenly and I lost her. I just couldn't imagine losing my teenage child, for some seemingly non-serious reason, after losing my second oldest the year before and suddenly. I was assured though that even though she is older, she is perfectly healthy other than this issue with losing weight. The new vet said she has stomatitis, and needs her teeth extracted. He charged another $400 I didn't have to re-check her blood, twice, and give her a shot of antibiotic, steroid and an exam. Her surgery came to $717. I gave him $487 that I didn't have to spend, and he agreed to perform the surgery with my owing the rest in 30 days. My care credit card is maxed now at $500, and I owe $231 to the vet. It has just been a week since the surgery, and already I see a difference in her. Yay! But, I have another cat, my only boy, who in the past 9 months or so is exhibiting these same damn symptoms. He I took in from the harsh winter about 7 years ago. I had him neutered and his shots and so on, and added him to our then 1 human child, 3 cat and one dog family. He is the sweetest most loving gentleman, and the one "man" in and of this house of ALL females! I have watched him cry out and run from his food, and choose not to eat as well, due to pain. He too is choosing to starve himseld than deal with the awful pain in his mouth. I feel awful now knowing what has to be what is wrong, and knowing that I do not have the money to have him cared for. I imagine it will be about the same cost as hers. He is currently suffering and wasting away. I want to help him now, next. The day after my cat had her surgery, my daughter had an appointment with an orthodontist, thanks to a referral from a TMJ specialist at UC hospital. Her jaw has been going in and out of her jaw joint. She is 11! I found that her lower jaw is not in place, and there is a 17mm difference between her top and lower front teeth! She needs an appliance called a Mara, to slowly move her lower jaw to where it should be and a full set of braces. The kicker, it too has to be now. If not, her jaw will not be able to be moved, due to her age and growing of facial structure. Total, $230 records fee and $5555 for the appliances! Whaaaaat! So, I need $230 in June for the records fee, and percent down of the total on the appliances in August when she gets them put in. Then they want me to pay weekly I think, on the balance. I have barely any money! I have medicaid even, but no ortho takes it! Poor thing just had two teeth pulled tonight, and 1 more is to be pulled next month in preparation for the molding that happens in June. My car. It needs brakes, like now. They are squealing and grinding and I am starting to worry about safety at this point. Really!? A single mother has to be pretty independent to be able to pull off all responsibilities, and I have no one really to rely on anyways. I gave the shortest version possible on all my woes, and spared some details. I don't know how I am going to pull all this off. I am living off a few hundred dollars a week, and starting to freak out at all of this. All my savings I had went to the car I bought, just months before the car accident at work happened! I have anxiety through the roof, and some depression. I feel overwhelmed and somewhat hopeless/helpless. The last two years almost of my life have been rough, to say the least, on all of us. I love my daughter and have to help her. I love my animals, they are my children. We have to have a car, and a safe one at that. My bills are all current and at a necessity only basis, as I have managed to keep that afloat.I figure by trying this, I have nothing to lose. I will say I can verify in writing these bills, and estimates for all I mentioned needed help for. I am an honest humbled woman reaching out for some much needed help, if you care to and are able. Thank you for your time....