Stage IV Esophogeal Cancer UK resident in USA
Organized by: Marie Sullivan
On July 14th 2015 my beloved boyfriend from England was diagnosed with Esophageal cancer. This was a very scary thing because John is a resident of the UK and not the USA. With a lot of blood sweat and tears, I was able to find a loophole to how we could him get him treated here for this very scary diagnosis without being thousands in debt. His Visa had run out, now he is here as an undocumented person. Love is what put us in this situation. We had been planning on getting married. If I simply sent him home to England, he would have to wait 5 years returning due to the visa situation. Since July, he completed chemo/radiation. Then, for the big day to come, an Esophagectomy. After all that and him being so ill, we were happy to have finally come to the end of the battle. I was told it would take 6-8 hours to complete and that they would give me calls throughout to inform of the progress. First call, everything looks great first incision made. Second call, This is DR. Cooke. We are finished and sewing him up now. That call was made 2 hours in. I thought wow, this guy knows his stuff, that was fast! He then stated "well, we found more cancer in his stomach and had to abort the surgery. He is now considered a stage IV. He will be offered palliative chemo now. I am sad, but have not given up hope. He is only 44 and I am only 40. We both have had very unlucky situations in life and both agree and have gone trough the thoughts of " why would life be so cruel as to finally truly be happy and now this?" I am have a lot of hope that he will have a good response to chemo to shrink the cancer and stay with me for some more years. I do still plan on marrying him. The Problem we are having now is that John can not work at all. I have been a single parent for 10 years. Her father has barely provided support. actually owes over $20,000. in child support. I have not used any kind of help from any kind of system. I have always maintained a full time job and have overcome many hiccups life has thrown my way. I am very proud of this and actually a very proud person. It has taken a lot for me to decide to see if in some way I could find financial help somewhere. Now, John at stage IV, it will be at least another year of him suffering and not working. Where we have been living with maintainable rent is now going to be sold. I can't afford the $1000 plus rent that is the going rate for where I am. I would love to buy a small condo, or something, but my daughter's father stuck me with an $18,000. court judgement for a motorcycle that was filed in court, that led me into filing bankruptcy just this past October. A wage garnishment would not be an option because Just alone 165 bi-weekly comes out of my checks for healthcare. I figure if we can get enough money to help us for a year for rent and other expenses, he will hopefully be well enough to work by then, we will get married and do this immigration thing properly. Just to add, he is the sweetest, kindest person I know and has been the one and only father figure to my daughter. I feel so helpless, and the anxiety of the not knowing is over whelming. Anything would help! If you can't help, please say a prayer for my John as I do believe that the more prayers the better. Thank you!