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STOP CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE

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BENEFITING: Stop It Now, Inc.

EVENT DATE: Dec 31, 2013

M.M. Rahman Sajib

THE STORY:

We are working to create a culture of respect for children's protection rights through development of child rights based and gender appropriate policies, advocacy, a change of societal attitudes, strengthened capacity in government and civil society responses to protection issues and the establishment of protective mechanisms against abuse exploitation and violence.
 

BACKGROUND

Children in Bangladesh are vulnerable to being trafficked into bonded labour or brothels;
being sexually abused in the home, the workplace, community and at school; and being
sexually exploited. There are few protections in place for children such as these.
In a country where less than 10 per cent of children are registered at birth, it is difficult to
track whether children's rights are being protected. Those who are abused, trafficked or
exploited are explicitly denied their rights to be safe from these practices under the
Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC). They are also more vulnerable to HIV/AIDS,
drug abuse, more likely to not finish - or begin - their education, or realize their right to be
brought up with their family.

ISSUES
Child sexual abuse, exploitation and trafficking remain largely taboo in Bangladesh society.
Because of this, there is little reliable quantitative data. Gaining qualitative data is also
challenging because of the shame and culture of silence associated with abuse.
A major underlying issue behind child sexual abuse, exploitation and trafficking is that
children are often unaware of their legal rights, or are made to feel they cannot exercise
those rights. In general, the rights and desires of children are often overlooked, particularly
for the most vulnerable groups, such as adolescent girls. Poor law enforcement compounds
this.
Inequality is another critical issue. Often disabled children and girls are more vulnerable.
Isolated or impoverished regions are also more attractive to gangs of traffickers because it
is both harder for parents to seek law enforcement but also easier to sell the idea of
"lucrative jobs" to impoverished parents. In general, services for exploited or abused
children are scarce, but it is even more so in these areas. Children who have a lack of
economic opportunities and poor education are also more at risk of being trafficked, abused
or exploited.
Many children who have experienced, or are experiencing, sexual abuse, exploitation or
trafficking are susceptible to drug and substance abuse as a form of escape. These children
are vulnerable to HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted infections.
Reintegration into mainstream community is another issue that cuts across child sexual
abuse, exploitation and trafficking. Many child survivors of these practices require
psychosocial counselling and life skills training.


Trafficking
Human trafficking in Bangladesh is believed to be extensive both within the country and to
India, Pakistan and the Middle East. Many girls are trafficked into sexual exploitation or
bonded servitude. Many boys have also been trafficked to the Middle East to become camel
racing jockeys. Children involved in camel racing (CICR) are often injured in the course of
their work, are vulnerable to abuse from their employers and there are reports of employers
deliberately keeping the children's weights low by not feeding them enough. Many children
are taken with their parents' consent, having been duped by stories of well-paid jobs or
marriages.
Reintegration into mainstream society is a huge issue for trafficked children, especially for
girls with the stigma and taboo associated with it. If they return with a Sexually Transmitted
Infection (STI) or HIV positive, it becomes more challenging for the family and community
to accept them. For children involved in camel racing, many can no longer remember their
own language. They become strangers in their own land.

Child sexual abuse
Child sexual abuse permeates all levels of Bangladeshi society. Children are at risk of
abuse or harassment in their own homes, from relatives and family "friends". It is found in
schools, communities and the workplace. While disadvantaged and disabled children are
more vulnerable to abuse, it is not limited to them. Most children know their abuser, who is
usually someone close to them.

Signs and Symptoms:

Concerning behaviors

1. Knowledge of sexual activity beyond the child’s development
2. Child acts out sexual activities
3. Child becomes withdrawn from peers and family
4. Poor performance at school
5. The child fears or is concerned about a particular adult
6. Child wants to spend an excessive amount of time with a
particular adult
7. Child becomes aggressive in behavior to others
8. Child harms themselves physically or emotionally
9. Child shows physical indications of abuse: bleeding, bruising on
genital regions

Commercial child sexual exploitation
Child sexual exploitation can start when children are as young as 10 in Bangladesh's
registered brothels, its hotels and its parks, streets and stations. Children of women who
work in a brothel often end up working there too. In brothels, many children have to work
as bonded sex workers. They must pay all their earnings to the brothel's madam for their
first few years in return for food, clothes and essentials.
Child victims of commercial sexual exploitation can also end up in brothels or on the streets
through trafficking, family break-downs or poverty. On the streets, many children are beaten
and robbed. Many boys are drawn into crime through their pimps. Men having sex with men
(MSM) is a growing and hidden issue but often not acknowledged due to the stigma or shame attached to it.

Effects of Sexual Abuse:

Physical complaints:

• Some effects of physical child abuse include stomachaches, migraines, gut problems or other physical symptoms not directly caused by the abuse – these are psychosomatic indicators. Abused kids often feel exhausted, starving, or sick most of the time.

Psychological Problems:

• Child sexual abuse (CSA) can cause a person to have sleep pattern difficulties, low self esteem, depression, suicide, shame/powerlessness, denial, anger, aggitaion, self destruction, drug and alcohol abuse.

Social Problems:
• Loss of trust in others.
• Loss of control in a relationship.

Eating Disorders:

• Many studies have linked the development of eating disorders with sexual abuse.
• Children who were sexually abused reports high rates of depression, anxiety, bulimia and anorexia nervosa.

Re-experiencing:
• They experience the event(s) again; unintentionally they are confronted with memories of the abuse, for example through nightmares, sudden memories or unexplainable physical problems

Depression:

• Anger turned inward leads to feelings of depression, and 80% of depressed teenagers don't get help. They're more likely to suffer another bout of depression in their early 20s, and abuse drugs and alcohol (American Psychiatric Association). Abused kids often feel depressed as a result of child abuse.

Rage:
• Anger not expressed appropriately leaks out in other ways (or stays inside and turns into depression). One possible effect of physical child abuse is passive aggressive behavior. That is, abused kids get back at people indirectly (e.g., burning the pizza when they’re mad that they got slapped last night.) Another effect of physical child abuse is hostility and cynicism.

Isolation:

• Abused kids are less likely to make friends and more likely to be rejected by their peers (Lowenthal, 1996). An effect of child abuse is skipping school without anybody noticing, stopping eating without anyone caring, or spending time with people doing things better left undone (these can be consequences of neglect)

Ways To Stop Sexual Abuse:

There are ways to stop sexual abuse, as well as ways to prevent sexual abuse. If you watch certain news magazine shows, and certain day-time talk shows, you will have a warped view of the current picture of sexual abuse in this nation. Most children who are sexually abused are not attacked by strangers, or by strange men on the Internet, or the creepy guy at the park. Fathers, mothers, aunts, uncles, grandparents, community leaders, cousins, siblings, stepsiblings, and church officials are more likely to be the culprits when it comes to sexual abuse. But you are not helpless to stop them.

The first way to stop sexual abuse is to be vigilant. If your child began exhibiting classic signs of sexual abuse-odd or unaccounted for injuries, ripped clothing or underwear, depression, alcohol and drug abuse, hyper-sexuality, withdrawal-then you should investigate immediately. The second way to stop sexual abuse is to listen to your children and remove them from a dangerous situation. The third way to stop sexual abuse is to provide a safe environment for children who are in danger can go to. Children will not tell anybody what is happening to them unless they can find an adult they can trust completely. One who will believe them. One who will not blame the child for the situation.

Another way to stop sexual abuse is through education. This article is a good start, but it simply cannot give you all the information you need about signs and symptoms of sexual abuse. It also cannot provide an in depth look at the people who are typically predators. For example, most cases of sexual abuse or perpetuated by men, and most of those are men the child knows. However, men are not the only people who are capable of sexual abuse, or who are found guilty of sexual abuse. Women can sexually abuse boys and girls, and that is often a crime that is overlooked or ignored.

Another way to stop sexual abuse isn't just to educate yourself, but to educate your children as well. Teach your children what are appropriate and inappropriate ways of touching. Also, educate your children about trusted adults in the community who they can seek out for help, if their parents are not available.

The biggest and best way to stop sexual abuse is to talk about it. Predators thrive on silence. Predators will not survive without silence. Do not let the predators have the silence they need to manipulate, groom, and rape children.

ACTION
We are working to create a culture of respect for children's protection rights through development of child rights based and gender appropriate policies, advocacy, a change of societal attitudes, strengthened capacity in government and civil society responses to protection issues and the establishment of protective mechanisms against abuse exploitation and violence.

Our vision
We work for a world which protects each child and shows zero tolerance to STOP CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE.

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