To see my son
Organized by: Lon Collins
Four years ago this coming Aug. was the last time I saw my son. I told my wife on this fateful day that I wanted a divorce. Her response and I quote "You divorce me you will never see your son again!" This was on a Sat. I filed on Mon., served with a VPO at work on Weds or Thurs. I was given the money to file by a dear friend. I was working but didnt have the money or resources at time. I was new to Oklahoma and knew basically only two people. So now I find myself not only in the middle of a divorce but also I protective order case. Both were merged after three postponements and three missed days of work. The judge was an extremely surly woman. I found myself in a akward situation running into my ex outside of the courtroom with no council. I pleaded with her to let me see my son she rufused stating that "My son is not coming to a house full of addicts". I was living with a woman who was at this time at least four years into untainted sobriety. This was more than my ex and myself combined times four. I also had more time clean and sober than she did as she was still popping pills. I know this for a fact because I gave her my painkiller script from getting a tooth pulled. Any during this encounter outside of the courtroom I responded my calling her a something I wish I could take back. The judge ordered me to take anger management as well as parenting classes, I needed neither. I completed all ordered while missing even more work because that was the only times available. So then I find myself in a situation I cant pay the upkeep for the attorney. He withdrawals from my case and I have no representation. I get hit with a five year protective order and $400.00 a month in child support. Keep in mind thats one year longer than the max in the state of Oklahoma. Not to mention suddenly my son is named in the protective order. So thats two protective orders shes now filed the first of which I hadnt even been home a week. This woman made a career of filing false protective orders everytime I didnt want to be with her anylonger. I wasnt a danger while we were together but suddenly everytime I go away I become a danger to her. Yes she was in an abusive relationship unfortunately she was the aggressor in EVERY instance. Some how she has fooled the earth into thinking otherwise DARVO, look it up. Anyway I want to see my son if not now I will have to wait until 2018. How could any woman think its good for a child especially a boy, the first 7 yrs of its/his life not have a father is beyond me. Anyway I need to get a family law attorney and they are as corrupt as the family courts and those who oversee it.. It is going to cost me $3,500 for a ratainer, i make 11.05 an hour, do the math. I will take anything you're will to give to help me get closer to that goal. Now reason I should have to buy the right to see my child but thats how the system is set up!