Triplets and working 3 Jobs at the point of exhaustion
Organized by: James Nesland
My wife and i married in 2009 and dreamed of a child and in 2011 we had our first daughter. I picked up a second job delivering pizza at night and we put money down on our first home and got a decent used car. Things were going well however my Mom lost her eyesight and ability to walk from diabetes and my father became diagnosed with polycystic kidney disorder and had to quit his job at the postoffice and both are on disability and cannot drive.
My wife's entire family is from a small village in Guatemala where their county will not allow anyone out to the US short of a miracle. (We tried like 5 times at about 800$ a pop!) Raising our daughter was not easy but we managed with no family support and were fine. THEN THE BIG NEWS!!!!! my wife became pregnant with TRIPLETS yes TRIPLETS totally natural and unexpected this was after the DR said she could have no more kids. We have always seen that as a great Blessing no doubt. at the time they were born our daughter was 2 and while my wife was in the hospital I picked up a 3rd part time job because we were just scraping by on my other full and part time job both practically minimum wage.
Anyways..... Now it gets crazy!!!! because i had noooooo idea what taking care of 3 newborns and a 2 yr old was like and quickly realized it was by far the most difficult thing i probably will ever have to do because there is no grandma on either side no aunts and no brothers sisters cousins NOBODY just me working almost 24/7 which was 8 to 4 then 5 to 10 mon through fri and then on the weekends 11 to 6 or 11 to 8. So guess what my wife took care of those babies like a champ so loving and caring and then the little bit of time when i got home i helped. when 1 baby was done eating it was time for the next. bottles were made constantly and diapers changed constantly. after about 3 months i had to quit the night Job because i was getting at best 2 or 3 hours a night sleep and with lack of sleep it made a difficult time nearly impossible.
We have fought through and now the babies just turned 3 and our 5 yr old started school. I am back the 3 jobs trying to get back caught up and pay off our home and car. I have a college degree but there is nothing out there in a field of psychology with no masters degree I am a teacher at a special needs school full time but its a private school and pays half of what a public school does. It is steady and am thankful for that and love my students.
My wife and i are so tired and exhausted i have basically missed 90 percent of my kids first 3 yrs and if my house and car were paid off i could go down to 1 job and a part time and have the weekends to be with my family and go to church. I feel so blessed and can honestly say i have been giving it my all for my family to buy food and diapers and keep our home. but its like treading water and im sinking. We are so tired i cant even explain it in words and still just treading water and will not catch up without a miracle, I would have done this sooner but just found out about this site from my father who will be doing one for himself to be able to get on the kidney donor list. I pray you can see my sincerity and understand and great need i am at witts end literally. I humbly and Graciously thank you and God Bless